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24 Hour Fitness Staff Body Shamed me for being ‘TOO FIT’

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An Open Letter to 24 Hour Fitness, Miramar Club Florida RED Road Location

August 6, 2016

Dear Megan, Operations Manager,

On August 4th 2016, I was working out on the Gauntlet Stepper and you took it upon yourself to come over to me and interrupt my workout to tell me that my ‘shorts were too short for YOUR liking’. At first I didn’t respond to you, not because I was being rude, but because I was in shock. I have been a member of 24 Hour Fitness since 2003 and I am a 6-year member of LA Fitness and a 1-year member of Planet Fitness. Not once has anyone ever approached me in any club, in any state (and I travel A LOT Megan) to tell me my shorts were ‘too short’. In fact, the lady in the neon yellow halter top nearby me had her Double D implants pushed up and all but her nipples showing and you had no issues with her. Then there was the lady in the white tank top with no bra underneath and you could see everything. But you didn’t approach them did you?  After all, this is Miami and SOFLA is known as the ‘sexy city’.

I responded out of confusion mostly to you, with ‘I am not sure what you mean,’ and Megan you asked me to ‘cover up with a jacket, so as not to offend YOU’. Well, I am not sure where you are from but it is August in Miami and most folks down here don’t carry a jacket in the summer with temps in the 90’s and hot humidity. Carrying a jacket is not a norm for us folks here. When I responded by shaking my head ‘no’ (I was really still in shock and by now my client on the phone had heard the conversation and was asking me what was going on) you asked me to ‘change my clothes’. Change into what? A potato sack so you can’t see any of the hard work I put into my legs or glutes? What did you think – I had several sets of workout gear just hanging out in my purse to accommodate your needs?

Then you dropped the hammer. You asked me to ‘wear pants in the gym because (and my jaw must have opened here) my bum was too fit for my shorts?’ WHHAATTTT? Let’s just stop here. Did you just body shame me for being FIT?  Why, yes you did, and in the gym that got my bum that nice heart shape. AND you suggested I wear pants to cover up that nice bum that I worked so hard to get, so as not to offend YOU personally.  I don’t think I even responded. I was in shock, and Megan it takes A LOT to shock me. You did it, you won via Body Shaming. Way to Go Champ!

I won’t wear pants in August in Miami. I don’t sweat because of my thyroid problem and if I wear pants in summer in Miami and workout, I will probably end up in the hospital. BUT, then you wouldn’t be offended calling 911 to come save me because I will be fully covered up from head to toe.  At least I won’t offend YOU Megan. Let me grab that potato sack. I guess my heart-shaped bum is a problem? Isn’t that what we are supposed to achieve by having a membership at 24 Hour Fitness?

Megan, what you don’t know is I spent my entire life being told I was ‘too fat’ and to ‘cover up because I was offending someone’.  Now that I am fit and work my ass off literally to stay fit, you tell me to ‘cover up’ because I am offending YOU. You never said I was violating any 24 Hour Fitness Policy, or any 24 Hour Fitness rule, which I asked you about when I said ‘well, no one has ever once told me my outfit was not appropriate since 2003’ and your response? Classic. You said ‘No one ever told ME until now about your shorts’. I am sorry but when did the dress policy of 24 Hour Fitness become “it is up to the individual employee’s opinion to harass a customer based upon their own concern of offensiveness???” I highly doubt 24 Hour Fitness would leave it up to the employee’s discretion of whom to target and whom not to. But, then again Megan, you are a MANAGER, I am sure you know the policy. Does it contain a Potato Sack clause so my hind end is not too ‘exposed’ for you?

So Megan, Operations Manger at the 24 Hour Miramar Florida location on Red Road, I want to ask you this: Should I, as a customer, be offended that you are clearly out of shape, despite you work at a gym and you should be a model for all of us customers? You should inspire us to want to work out and come to the gym and buy personal training and drinks and merchandise and spend money in the store you have. Should I ask you why you are not in shape? Maybe you have a thyroid issue? Maybe you are pregnant? Maybe you have an eating disorder that I can’t tell from just looking at you? Maybe you eat too much or just don’t care how you look. Maybe you are happy at the weight and shape you are? Maybe you have lost 100 lbs. and are on a diet?

I would ask you, but it is none of my business, I don’t Body Shame.  It is not my place to be offended or to judge you, Megan.

I don’t even notice how you look Megan, because I don’t judge other women: fit, fat, tall, short, plastic. It is none of my business what they wear, or how they look, as long as they are happy. I am not offended when a woman has Double D implants and a tiny waist (I think good for her; her self-esteem is so high she rocks that!) So what made you approach me and tell me how OFFENDED you were with my shorts?  You obviously needed to Body Shame me.

What you didn’t know Megan, is that I have been body shamed my entire life. Too fat, too thin, too fit. Women ALWAYS have an issue. You took me right back to being fat and being told to cover up. The difference now, is I am educated enough to know it isn’t about my shorts, it is about how you feel about yourself that you have an issue with and you directed it towards me in particular. Well, the job location is not the place for this behavior. You should want to make your customers feel secure and buy more items to increase revenue for 24 Hour Fitness and not write articles like these to portray 24 Hour Fitness in bad taste.

I thought a gym is where you come to get your fat body fit, a place you can work out without shame and embarrassment, a safe haven? Apparently Megan, the Operations Manager at 24 Hour Fitness in Miramar, Florida, on Red Road, doesn’t think so. You need to meet HER personal dress requirements, which incidentally, I was one of two white people in the ENTIRE gym.

I approached Tony, the manager, in my shorts and asked him if my attire was appropriate. He not only said it was fine but he also informed me that is NOT a policy of 24 Hour fitness to approach customers and ask them to change or cover up. My baby sister works for LA Fitness and their policy is the same.

Megan, you Bully Body Shamed the WRONG chick. Not only am I going to let 24 Hour Fitness know that you need some help (therapy perhaps?) I will make it go viral as Body Shaming in any form at any time should not be tolerated or accepted, especially when you are working in a gym that wants to have its members fit and happy.

And for the girls and women that are dealing with the Bullies that Body Shame us, I hear you. It affects us at the core, and makes us wonder if we are really OK. Just know you are, and keep doing what you are doing. There will ALWAYS be haters, even at the gym.

 

Cali Estes

www.theaddictionscoach.com

1.800.706.0318 Ext 1

The Addictions Academy: 7 Ways Sugar is as Addictive as Drugs like Cocaine and Heroin.

Addictions can come in many forms! If you are passionate about helping others overcome their addictions, realizing that an addiction to food can be just as serious as dealing with an addiction to hardcore drugs like cocaine and heroin is crucial.

Read on for 7 ways SUGAR is as addictive as drugs like COCAINE and HEROIN.  Then visit www.theaddictionsacademy.com or call 1.800.706.0318 to learn more about becoming a Nationally Certified Food Addictions Coach, and register for our next upcoming class MARCH 24th and 25th!

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7 Ways Sugar is as addictive as Drugs like Cocaine and Heroin.

By Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach

Sitting in the car with a box of doughnuts in hand, fresh from the bakery drive-thru can be one of the most rewarding and exhilarating feelings in the world. They smell so good, and taste even better. But eating just one isn’t enough. You have 2 and maybe 3. Then you set them down and come back a few hours later because they are in the house. You finish the box. You feel sick, unhappy, depressed even. Now you are craving more sugar products. What happened? Here are 7 ways that sugar is as addictive as hardcore drugs like heroin and cocaine. 

1.       Chemically, sugar pings the brain just like cocaine. That means it affects your reward and pleasure systems just like an addictive hardcore drug. Your brain literally doesn’t know the difference. It just knows it likes it and wants more and more and more. So you think about it, obsess over it. You crave it, just like drugs. AND you are not happy until you have it. Then you feel guilty, remorseful, sad, angry, upset, just like drugs. The cycle – the vicious cycle – has begun.

2.       When you do not have sugar you feel sick. You get a headache, you feel tired, lethargic, depressed.  You don’t want to work out, go out, or do much. Your head pounds. You are detoxing, just like heroin. Sure you may not be vomiting and have the sweats and the chills but you are definitely coming off of the drug, sugar. Your body craves it, wants it. You think, just a little and I will feel better, just to rid myself of this headache. Then a little becomes a lot. Just like drugs. 

3.       You obsess when you do not have sugar. You think about candy, cake, cookies, ice cream. Your thoughts during the day revolve around when you can go to the vending machine for the snickers bar, the can of soda or the handful of chocolate you have on your desk.  You want it and you want it often. Denying yourself of it only makes the obsessive and racing thoughts get louder, just like cocaine.

4.       You plan your entire day around when you can have it. You might drive home from work the long way just to go through the drive thru and get an ice cream or a latte. You plan events that involve dessert or gatherings where sugar is present. You may offer to bring the cake to the party, so you can be sure there is dessert available. This is similar to the way a drug addict plans their route to go by the dealers house and ‘just happen to be in the neighborhood’ when they want to buy heroin or cocaine. 

5.       You swear you are going to ‘go off sugar’ and you are not going to touch it again. Just like getting a white chip, it sounds good now, after you’ve had 6 doughnuts and feel sick. But once you are not full and sick of the sweets you rethink that decision and say ‘just one more cookie, one more candy, one more lollipop then I swear I won’t touch it’. The same thing happens when we decide to get sober, we make a pact, we set forth the rules and then, inevitably we relapse and start all over. Sugar is no different. We crave it, we want it. Sugar is both chemically and emotionally just as addictive as drugs. AND it is in everything.

6.       You try everything, you drink tea, chew on a straw, buy a lotto ticket, smoke a cigarette, anything to get your mind off sugar. But it creeps in, just like drugs, you are emotionally and now physically addicted. You can’t stop the inner chatter or the physical detox. It is annoying, it is painful and it can be stopped with just one candy bar. You rationalize. “It is legal, it is not that bad, you can’t make me quit this too, everyone has sugar, I am not that fat so what is the issue?” and on and on and on. You talk yourself right into the sugar snack. Game on, the cycle continues.

7.       You tie your emotions to the eating process. You may trade drugs for sugar or be a true food addict where you feel guilty while binging on the snacks. You eat over the sink, you hide snacks in your desk, purse, car, even pockets. You don’t want others to know your ‘dirty little secret’. At meals you eat small portions in front of others but as soon as you leave you stop and buy ice cream to take home and eat.  Just like a drug addict, you won’t want anyone to know. You are embarrassed.  

Unlike drugs that you do not need to survive, you do need to eat and sugar seems to be in everything! Going to the grocery store, restaurant or even snack bar is a problem.   We all know that there is sugar in cake, cookies, candy and ice cream but how about pasta sauce? Or yogurt? Tons of sugar!  Sugar is beyond just as addictive as drugs and as a nation we are creating a whole new breed of addict with a legal substance.

So what can you do? All hope is not lost. Start with a realistic version of what you want to accomplish. Do you want to cut back on your sugar consumption or quit altogether? Start a food journal and track your moods and foods, notice when you crave the sweets. Stay full, use nuts, berries, bananas and other fruits to curb the sweet tooth. If you are full and had a sweet piece of fruit, you are less like to reach for cake, candy, cookies and more. The less sugar you eat the better you will feel and as you begin to detox from the sugar if you go back it you will notice it is sweeter and less palatable.

If you need a food addiction coach for added accountability and to hold your hand the through the process we are here! The first two weeks are uncomfortable just like a drug detox, but after that it becomes easier.

Cali Estes, PHD, CAP, ICADC, CEO of The Addictions Coach has been working with food addiction and drug and alcohol addiction for over 20 years. She resides in Miami but travels to LA and NYC to visit with her clients. She also offers a mobile rehab and sober companion and sober coach service. You can reach her www.theaddictionscoach.com or at 1.800.706.0318

 

Dr. Cali Estes: 5 Deadly Mistakes You Make When a Loved One Has an Addiction

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Dr. Cali Estes: 5 Deadly Mistakes You Make When a Loved One Has an Addiction

1. Sending money and expecting them to pay the rent, electric, food or other bills with the money. An addict in active use will use the cash for drugs or gambling and then call for more money when the eviction notice is slapped on the door. Parents and loved ones panic and try to fix the problem the addict has which results in more money being sent. If you are paying for something, pay it directly. Send a check to the landlord or pay the electric bill directly.  Do not send the addict in active use cash. Send a food card if necessary or take them to the grocery store and buy the food with them.

2. Rescue the Active Addict. The Addict in active use will always be in a state of chaos and call frantic, needing to have an issue handled. Resist the urge to jump in and fix the problem for them. Let them attempt to figure out the issue on their own and struggle.

3. Lack of Self Care.  With focusing on the addict in active addiction, you lose what you need to take care of. Doctors appointments get missed, dinner is not prepared, you find that you are not eating well and sitting up worrying about your loved one. It is imperative that you take care of yourself during this time period. Go to the gym, yoga, for a walk, etc.

4. Allowing your anger to consume you and accusing the addict of ruining your life. They have a ton of shame and guilt around what they are doing and how it is affecting you. They know what is going on. Yelling and screaming and calling them a ‘junkie’ does not help, it magnifies the guilt and causes them to continue to use.

5. Setting consequences and then not following through with them. If you threaten divorce or to throw them out and never do, they have learned to manipulate you and will continue to do so. Whatever you say you will do, make sure you follow through with it.

At The Addictions Coach, we can help you with our family coaching program. Call us at 1.800.706.0318 or click on www.theaddictionscoach.com and reach us today. We have individual and supportive group sessions.

Dr. Cali Estes: Life Saving At-Home Addiction Treatment Program

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Cali Estes Ph.D. Says In-Home Rehab Works!

by Howard Needle

Cali Estes Ph.D. is a very accomplished addiction treatment specialist and a valued contributor to The Starter Kit To Recovery At Home. Listen to what she has to say about this innovative and affordable new product.

“My first exposure to addiction treatment was in the prison system, I was assigned to the harden drug addicts and alcoholics trying to straighten out their lives. It was here where I found my passion for helping people. I continued in the field after that experience and it became the focus of my studies – eventually earning my Ph.D. What I found was that not everyone responds to treatment the same way, that there is no “one size fits all” therapy.

Disenchanted with the treatment center I was working at, I set off on my own and developed a new treatment model centered on all my previous experiences. What added to its uniqueness is that it is an in-home rehab program. More importantly, it works. In a short time my clientele grew to famous actors and sports figures.

The Starter Kit To Recovery At Home is my way of giving back to the people who have barriers to treatment. In the videos, I’m talking with you one-on-one. I will walk you through the recovery process step-by-step. It’s the same steps and principles that have been so successful for my clientele. Everyday I’ll be throwing a lot at you and you’ll have to keep up. If you do, you’ll be well on your way to a better life!”

This is your opportunity to help people who cannot afford your lifesaving treatment. The Starter Kit To Recovery At Home is a one-of-a-kind program designed specifically for addicts without addiction treatment insurance or do not have the financial resources to pay for treatment. It is affordable and will help addicts wanting to get their life back in order. ‘The Starter Kit to Recovery at Home’ may be the only treatment these desperate addicts ever have access to.

You can help save the life of poor individuals who cannot afford your treatment by forwarding their calls to my office (24/7). It’s easy to do and requires no special hard or software. It takes seconds of your time and you’ll receive a $50.00 dollar check for every program purchased from your referral. I’m also interested in data bases less than fourteen days old.

It only takes seconds to save a life.

Call or email me, Howard Needle 888-838-5743 alternativesolutionmedia@gmail.com

 

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The Addictions Coach: Treating Addiction with Addiction Medicines

The Addictions Coach:  Treating Addiction with Addiction Medicines

Would you consider this to be trading one addiction for another? Switching an illicit drug to a big pharma medication that is not even organic but chemical?  Read the excerpt from the article below regarding addiction medicine.  What are your thoughts?

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Treating addicts: The tension between drug treatment and abstinence

Marvin Seppala wrote a book on conquering drug addiction with counseling and group therapy.

The spiritual, abstinence-based strategy pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous and adopted by Narcotics Anonymous helped him overcome his own alcohol and cocaine addiction when he was 19. As medical director of Minnesota’s Hazelden clinic, he watched it work for patients.

He believed in it — and then he changed his mind.

In 2007, Seppala began working at Beyond Addictions, a now-defunct treatment center in Beaverton, Ore. Instead of relying solely on counseling and 12-step programs, the center gave its patients a relatively new medication, buprenorphine, to relieve their drug cravings.

Back in Minnesota, his patients had been bailing out of treatment to use illicit drugs again. In Oregon his patients on buprenorphine weren’t relapsing or overdosing — they reported feeling “normal” again.

Nearly a decade later, physicians and brain researchers say that drugs such as buprenorphine, methadone and naltrexone are the most effective anti-addiction weapons available. Nevertheless, more than two-thirds of U.S. clinics and treatment centers do not offer the medicines. Many refuse to admit people who are taking them.

The result is that hundreds, perhaps thousands, of Americans are dying unnecessarily, victims of an epidemic that killed more than 28,000 people in 2014 — more than homicides and almost as many as highway fatalities. At the beginning of his State of the Union address last week, President Obama took note of the opioid epidemic, saying that helping people addicted to prescription drugs was a bipartisan priority.

The research is unassailable: Staying in recovery and avoiding relapse for at least a year is more than twice as likely with medications as without them. Medications also lower the risk of a fatal overdose.

Addicts who quit drugs under an abstinence-based program are at a high risk of fatally overdosing if they relapse. Within days, the abstinent body’s tolerance for opioids plummets, and even a small dose of the drugs can shut down breathing.

And yet, as the country’s opioid epidemic worsens — every day, more than 70 Americans die from overdoses, and the numbers are climbing — only about a fifth of the people who would benefit from the medications are getting them, according to a study by the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health.

Opponents say that while addiction medications such as buprenorphine reduce cravings, they don’t attack the underlying psychological problems that often go with addiction. Nor do they address shame, guilt and self-loathing, as counseling does.

Robert Mooney’s belief in abstinence has never wavered. As medical director at Vista Taos, a treatment center in New Mexico, he refers his patients elsewhere if they want to take medication. “What we do here is abstinence-based, because there are some people that nothing else will work on,” he said.

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Dr. Cali Estes: Nine Ways To Market Yourself as a Professional Coach

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Nine Ways To Market Yourself as a Professional Coach
Written by Dr. Cali Estes.  As published on Addicted Minds

http://www.addictedminds.com/recovery-coach/nine-ways-to-market-yourself-as-a-professional-coach/

If you want to be successful as a Professional Coach, you must also become a successful marketer of Professional Coaching; unless you are willing to shell out big dollars to hire one. We will share with you the nine keys to becoming successful in marketing yourself as a Professional Coach, if you can master these principles, you will succeed.

Social Media Ads:
Every day your name or the name of your coaching business, your logo, and what you offer needs to be in front of social media such as LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Instagram. Pinterest, etc. You should also establish coaching groups within the appropriate sites that you can do so on. You can use a site such as Hootsuite to manage the scheduling of all of your ads and social media sites. You can also make professional video ads on sites such as Viddyad.com to publish where ever you like. Use video, it’d hot right now!

Your Own Exciting, Informational, and Relevant Website:

Websites are crucial to your success in the Professional Coaching business. Unless you are a computer whiz, use a professional to build your website for you. Look at other Professional Coach’s websites to get an idea what your competition has, so that you know what the standard is that your webmaster needs to outshine. Your website needs to be fresh, exciting, and informative. You will need to be able to update your site on a regular basis. Your introduction must be eye-catching to the viewer or they will move on. Your site must stand out from all of the others and establish you as the best of the best! Use video!

Writing Articles and Content on Professional Coaching:
To market yourself or your company successfully you must establish yourself as an expert in the industry of Professional Coaching, one of the best ways is through writing articles and content on Professional Coaching. “Show your knowledge” as a real pro! Write your own content, hire ghost writers, and curate content from companies such as “Scoop-It.” Ghost writers will write articles for you and you can sign your name as the author, this is a great service for those who are too busy to write articles on a regular basis. You should write some articles yourself, just to keep yourself honest! Curation is where you re-publish an article that has already been published from a curation company like “Scoop-It.” It doesn’t matter where you post and publish as long as you do, places with larger audiences are best. Some companies will pay you to write articles and content usually about five cents per word.

Creating a Blog, and Blogging:
Creating your own blog and writing for other companies on their blogs is a wonderful way to continue to establish your professionalism, knowledge, and expertise in the coaching industry. Many companies are looking for experts to write on their blogs and some will even pay you to do so. Make sure to write on your blog on a regular basis, keep it fresh and interesting Invite guest bloggers that are big names in the industry to show how well connected you are with other experts. They would not blog for you if you were not an expert also! You can even have more than one blog and a blog can go right on your website. Use quotes, the latest news, anything exciting and eye-catching. Videos are Hot, Hot, and Hot; use them!

Writing a Book:
Anyone who publishes a book increases their credibility. If you happen to get on the bestsellers list, that is a major feather in your “Expert Cap.” Your book doesn’t have to be a novel, it can be a short how-to book, or anything interesting, that people will buy and read. If your book is on Professional Coaching, that is best.

Establishing Yourself as an Expert in the Professional Coaching Industry:
The goal in everything that you do is to establish yourself as the go-to expert in the Professional Coaching industry. You need to be professional, ethical, and on top of your game at all times. People are watching every move you make in public and private life, always be professional. People are watching especially on social media such as Facebook. Be the expert that you are!

Build a Data Base of Emails of Interested Clients:
Your webmaster can build your website so that it’s automated to give away something to potential clients in exchange for their email information. The site will automatically build a database from the name and email of potential clients who show interest in your free giveaway items. You can offer free e-books, white sheets, pens, stress-balls, anything.

Plan and host a Free Webinar:
Once you have enough names and email addresses in your database, you can plan to do a free webinar for potential clients. Please note, don’t give away too much for free! Tell the potential clients a little bit about Professional coaching, maybe invite a former client who is willing to share for a few minutes on the webinar. Maybe do a Q and A with potential clients and yourself. Sell the potential clients on a planned live event, or a DVD, book, etc. while you have a captive audience at the webinar.

Host a Live Event:
Once you have sold enough seats to have a live event, then you are well on your way to being a successful Professional Coach! All you will need to do now is sell the clients on the next webinar, live event, DVD series, book, etc. at the live event, and count the cash! If you can sell out a live event, you have made it! Remember, you never leave money on the table, one event leads to the next. Get referrals, names and emails, addresses from the people at webinars and live events of friends and family who would benefit from your expert Professional Coaching services.

If you can master these nine Professional Coaching marketing techniques, there is no doubt that you will be well on your way to filling events and making the kind of income that others only dream of. Potential without action gets nowhere! Successful Professional Coaches always follow a business plan that sets them up for success. This is one of those plans! Let’s go coach, your clients are waiting!
© 2015
Dr. Cali Estes PhD.

Robert Downey Jr. Gets Pardoned While Showing How Its Done!

 

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Robert Downey Jr. Gets Pardoned While Showing How Its Done!

 

Well, the Governor of California has rewarded actor Robert Downey Jr. with a full pardon from his 1996 drug conviction. Downey Jr. was one of about 100 people who received a pardon as the Governor has made this an annual event on Christmas Eve.

To qualify, the people convicted of these drug offenses must have a full decade between the present day and the day they completed their sentence. They must also have no further criminal activity during this time span and the original charge must be NON VIOLENT. As I am sure all 96 of these pardons have a success story of their own, I’d like to take Robert Downey Jr’s story and focus on all the things he and his support group did right to contribute to this well deserved reward/pardon.

In the early 90’s things looked bleak for RDJ as he spiraled out of control with his heavy cocaine and heroin use. We braced for the news that he would be the next young Hollywood talent that was found dead in some hotel room. Then his arrest in 1996 happened and things seemed to change for the better. Downey spent 15 months in prison and then successfully completed 2 years of supervised parole followed by 3 years of probation. During this 6 1/2 year span Downey stayed close to his outpatient program and focused on changing himself from the inside out.

The present day Robert Downey Jr. is nothing like the man from the 90s and he has worked hard to keep his demons at arms length and to remain drug free and a productive member of society. For this, we here at https://theaddictionscoach.com/ fully support someone who has been to hell and back with drugs and alcohol getting rewarded or pardoned by their government for surviving and becoming a better person in the process.

Dr. Cali Estes: New York Sober Coach

 

Dr. Cali Estes: New York Sober Coach

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Article originally published on AddictedMinds.com http://www.addictedminds.com/recovery/new-york-sober-coach/

New York Sober Coach

What is a ‘sober coach’?

A sober coach is a New Yorker, just like you. We are individuals that are trained, Nationally Certified in Recovery Coaching (NCRC) and able to assist you throughout your day. We can assist you, the New Yorker, by the hour, half day or full day, depending on your unique needs and busy lifestyle. All New York Sober Coaches are highly trained and educated, and understand the unique beat and pulse of the New York lifestyle. New York Sober Coaches are trained professionals that understand the issues around addiction. We can help you with drugs, alcohol, gambling, anger, food and more negative behaviors that impact and ruin your life. We get to the root cause of the issues and help you solve those negative issues that impact you.

Why do you need a New York Sober Coach or New York Sober Companion?

A New York Sober Coach understands the unique needs and vibe of New York and the fast paced culture of the life of a New Yorker. All of our sober coaches are executives in the professional industry, with years of sobriety under their belts. We offer both the abstinence model and harm reduction models and we meet every client right where they are. We NEVER force 12 step meetings on our clients and we also offer Yoga, Fitness, Nutrition, Life Coaching, Coping Skills, Life Skills and Behavioral Management. We are NOT paid babysitters. We are lifestyle management experts. We can accompany you in your daily life and assist you in gaining new skills and increasing the purpose and passion in your life. If you feel ‘stuck’ we can assist.

When do you need to hire a New York Sober Coach or New York Sober Companion?

Our clients hire us at different times and for various reasons. Some have just finished a residential treatment facility and need assistance dealing with real life in real-time. We can live in with them, or live in a hotel as they travel and offer 24/7 sober care and support as a sober coach. Some of our clients hire us in lieu of residential treatment or halfway houses. We stand in the gap between the treatment facility and the real world. We are present for our clients when they can’t be present for themselves. As your New York Recovery Coaches, we can handle 24/7 clients if they go on tour, on set, play on the court or field, or even travel for business. We also are available by event (if a client has a high stress event like a wedding we can accompany them to the event and assist with any behavioral issues including drugs and alcohol. We also can work by the hour and assist clients weekly as needed.

What training and education do New York Sober Coaches have?

All of our staff are Nationally Certified Recovery Coaches (NCRC) and Internationally Certified Master Addictions Coaches (IMAC). Training is paramount in hiring a sober coach or New York Sober Companion. Our clients are professionals that expect a certain level of service and training. All of our staff are trained, educated professionals that have personally experienced issues within their lives that allow them to offer a real level of expertise coupled with professional training.

Are your New York Sober Coaches and New York Sober Companions insured?

All of our staff at The Addictions Coach is not only trained but hold personal liability and malpractice insurance as well.

How do I find the right New York Sober Coach for me?

At the Addictions Coach personality match our clients and our staff. We want to know what our clients like about New York and what they do for fun and business and we then match the right Professional Certified Recovery Coach with the client. Our focus is on the client and we simply do not just send out ‘the first available coach’ we actually take the time to get to know our clients.

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The Addictions Coach: Why Do We Buy More Than We Need? A look at Compulsive Shopping.

Many addictions are easy to spot because they are addictions to obvious destructive substances or behavior. A shopping addiction can be harder to recognize.

“Even though shopping is legal and, in fact, encouraged in many ways, there’s a lot of shame with admitting that you have a problem with it,” said Terrence Shulman, author of “Bought Out and Spent.” “People are embarrassed that they are shopping themselves into debt or are out of control, or they fear they’ll be judged for being materialistic.”

Shulman, who runs the Shulman Center for Compulsive Theft, Spending and Hoarding in Michigan feels that it’s a growing problem. The center offers help on a national level.

“I think, increasingly, both individually and collectively, something is going on,” he said. “People are becoming more in debt and hoarding more.”

Oscar Sida, instructor and Human Services Program coordinator at UNLV, said that, typically, shopping addictions fall into the category of “process addictions,” any kind of behavior that is pathological but doesn’t have a specific mental illness associated with it. Very often, it is used as a coping mechanism.

“It’s pretty simple,” Sida said. “When we buy things, it makes us feel better.”

Heather Marianna, who was featured in the Oxygen channel reality series “My Shopping Addiction,” used shopping to fill a void when she moved to Las Vegas.

“When I moved here, I didn’t have any friends, and I was just bored,” Marianna said. “I went and shopped at Crystals every day because I didn’t have anything else to do.”

The purchases weren’t destroying her financially, as she had recently received a large inheritance, but she said it was still problematic.

“When we’re looking to determine if the shopping is an addiction, we look for the things that are common with any addiction,” Shulman said. “Is it an ongoing problem? Is it secretive? Is it causing negative consequences? Have there been unsuccessful attempts to stop? If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it might be a duck.”

Psychologists recognize several categories of shopping addicts. There are compulsive shoppers who shop to distract themselves from their feelings and codependent shoppers who shop to gain love and approval. There are also bulimic shoppers who repeat a cycle of buying and returning items. There are trophy shoppers who are seeking the perfect accessory for outfits or some other luxury item. Similarly, there are image shoppers who buy expensive cars, watches or other highly visible items or who will pick up a tab to reinforce their status. On the other end of the scale are bargain shoppers who buy things they don’t need just because they find a good deal.

One doesn’t need to be rich to have a shopping addiction. Sida notes that among the many things that might make a person more vulnerable to addiction are genetics, past trauma and even poverty.

“If you’re poor, you have less access to services,” Sida said. “There’s more psychological stress than normal and for a longer time.”

It’s also possible to have a physical injury trigger a shopping addiction.

“Maybe you were an active person who suddenly has limited mobility,” Sida said. “You might end up shopping too much online because you’re using it to fill the space that used to be used for physical activities.”

Sida said that there is no one-stop treatment for the issue, which may have multiple causes and is very likely to be paired with other issues.

“You should develop an individualized treatment,” Sida said. “That might mean having more than one health professional helping you out.”

For Marianna, the issue has been mostly resolved, although she still does quite a bit of shopping.

“I’ve started a beauty company, Beauty Kitchen,” the Boulder City resident said. “I’m still obsessed with buying, but now it’s for more materials to make more products.”

 

http://www.reviewjournal.com/view/shame-often-shadows-compulsive-shopping-habit

The Addictions Coach: Is Enzyme to Blame for Alcoholism?

The Addictions Coach: Is Enzyme to Blame for Alcoholism? 

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Enzyme malfunction may be why binge drinking can lead to alcoholism, study finds.

Science Daily

Stanford University Medical Center

A malfunctioning enzyme may be a reason that binge drinking increases the odds of alcoholism, according to a study by scientists at the Stanford University School of Medicine.

The scientists identified a previously unsuspected job performed by the enzyme, ALDH1a1, in mice. The discovery could help guide the development of medications that extinguish the urge to consume alcohol, said Jun Ding, PhD, assistant professor of neurosurgery.

Ding is the senior author of the study, which will be published Oct. 2 in Science. The study’s lead author is postdoctoral scholar Jae-Ick Kim, PhD.

Alcoholism is an immense national and international health problem. More than 200 million people globally, including 18 million Americans, suffer from it. Binge drinking substantially increases the likelihood of developing alcoholism. As many as one in four American adults report having engaged in binge drinking in the past month.

Existing medications for treating alcoholism have had mixed results. Disulfiram (Antabuse) and similar substances, for example, work by inducing unpleasant side effects — including shortness of breath, nausea, vomiting and throbbing headaches — if the person taking it consumes alcohol. “But these drugs don’t reduce the craving — you still feel a strong urge to drink,” Ding said.

In the new study, Ding and his associates showed that blocking ALDH1a1 activity caused mice’s consumption of and preference for alcohol to rise to levels equivalent to those observed in mice that had experienced several rounds of the equivalent of binge drinking. Restoring ALDH1a1 levels reversed this effect.

 

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http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/10/151001153047.htm