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Sports Sober Coach: Should Coach Sarkisian Have Been Fired?

USC Coach Steve Sarkisian fired

Sports Sober Coach: Should Coach Sarkisian Have Been Fired?

On Tuesday, what was long suspected since Sunday, was made official by the University of Southern California and Pat Hayden. The University’s head football coach was fired because of another alcohol-fueled incident while on school grounds and running the football program.

Coach Steve Sarkisian was under a strict “no alcohol” order by the University after he showed up drunk and on pain meds for a school fundraiser early this year. He mumbled through his speech and embarrassed himself and the University greatly. The school gave him another chance and implemented the strict “no alcohol under any circumstances” guidelines. Stories are beginning to surface that Sarkisian learned of his fate while on a plane to treatment. This brings to light a very passionate debate. Did the University do the right thing?  Especially since the coach was basically in charge of highly impressionable young adults lives to a certain extent. Did they attempt to get the coach treatment after the first major issue or did they sweep it under the carpet and focus back on winning at all costs? Did coach Sarkisian himself admit that he couldn’t do this alone and seek help before he lost a seven-figure job and his career?

These are all questions that I would like to have answered and hear from those of you reading this blog. Did the head coach get what was coming to him or did the University enable his habit and needs to shoulder some of the blame. I sure wouldn’t expect good results finding a heroin addict, rolling down my car window and telling him he is on a strict “no heroin” status. You can read more on this story at the following LA TIMES link http://www.latimes.com/sports/usc/uscnow/la-sp-sarkisian-fired-usc–coach-20151012-story.html and find out more on being extremely proactive in coaching high-end professionals such as ex-coach Sarkisian at Top Rated Addiction Recovery and Sober Coaching Services

The Addictions Coach: Which Detox is Worse? Oxy, Heroin, or Methadone

The Addictions Coach: Which Detox is Worse?  Oxy, Heroin, or Methadone.

Client, ‘John Doe’, is interviewed by Cali Estes of The Addictions Coach.   He shares his experiences with detoxing off of these three drugs, and the one he picks as the worst to detox may surprise you.  We can help you recover from your addiction, or work with you to stay clean and sober if you are in recovery.  Visit us at www.theaddictionscoach.com  or call 1.800.706.0318

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This is a first hand, personal account of an opiate user’s detox from Oxy, then Heroin and then Methadone. The most trying detox of the three may surprise you.

In 2009 John moved to Miami having never touched an opiate in his life, but after living in the pain pill capitol of Florida for over a year his curiosity got the best of him. A coworker turned him on to 15mg Roxy which rapidly turned into a habit. For the first 90 days John didn’t seem to detox when he didn’t have the pills, just a little tired. That’s when the whole game changed. Getting bored with the 15mg Roxies, John raised the bar to 30mg Roxy and within weeks increased to two 30mgs at a time.

Around mid 2010, Miami and all of South Florida really cracked down on local pill mills which led to John’s detox from Roxy. The scientific side of this is Roxy has a shorter half-life than other opiates so it leaves the body quicker so you get sick faster and it is very intense, but it is also over much quicker. With the Roxy, just getting through the first 72 hours is the key. Being a touring musician John left Miami for 5 weeks and seemed to have dodged a major bullet. So you would think.

Within 2 weeks of returning from the road, John started looking for pills again with no luck. That’s when his old dealer turned him on to Heroin which was cheaper and much more available. In John’s mind he had struck gold, a $100 a day roxy habit was now a $40 a day heroin habit. But true to form, that $40 a day heroin habit quickly turned into a $80 a day habit and then right back to $100 a day.

This usage lasted 2 years until personal and financial issues put the brakes on his party. This is where our first detox comparison comes in. John had quit Roxy cold turkey and suffered for 48 hours so he went into this situation with the same mindset. Huge mistake! At about the 24 hour mark from his last heroin dose the detox grabbed him physically and began 7 days of living  Hell. The first 48 hours of this new heroin detox immobilized John. He couldn’t get out of bed while violently throwing up and couldn’t even keep liquid down which contributed to major dehydration. Days 3 and 4 weren’t any better. Still not being able to eat, John had no energy at all. It took every ounce of will just to walk to the kitchen and bathroom. Thinking he was going to die, John suffered through the insomnia and night sweats until Day 6. Keep in mind, this detox has been much longer than the Roxy detox. Day 6 detoxing from Heroin seemed to give John some hope. Still fatigued with zero energy, John’s other physical symptoms had gone. Now it was just dealing with being tired. By Day 9 he was fine. But how soon we forget the bad part of addiction.

After 90 days of no Heroin or opiates, John found himself craving a few bags of Heroin and temptation gave in and within days he was in full blown usage again. Over the past year he knew he had to stop. He tried a few times but all the memories of the prior detox reminded him that help was needed. He could not go through that 7 day period again. After researching his options John decided to give Methadone a try and at first it worked like magic. 24 hours after his last Heroin dose John took his first dose of Methadone. Expecting the worst, John entered Day 1 with tons of anxiety but no sickness occurred. He continued the Methadone daily and there was never any sickness. Just a little lethargy, but no sickness. After 2 weeks on Methadone John felt safe to taper down and stop.

This is where our final detox comparison comes in. Keep in mind that John only used Methadone for 2 weeks. Methadone has a much longer half-life and can last upwards of 36 hours before it even begins to leave the body. This can give a false sense of security when stopping. You will detox from Methadone and it could take 3 days before you began to feel sick. This is exactly what happened to John. Day 1 and 2 after stopping Methadone showed no signs of detox. But Day 3 was a different story. Complete fatigue set in and John began to fear the worst. Day 4 and 5 was another 48 hour window of complete fatigue. By Day 6 the stomach issues were back in full force along with the night sweats. Day 7 welcomed back the insomnia and for the next week John suffered through no energy, night sweats and insomnia for a total of a 2 week detox off Methadone. Twice the time of detox off Heroin and 3 times the detox off Roxy.

Methadone is a publicly supported maintenance program to detox from other opiates. This account is from an actual opiate user and the above story is his account of each detox. There are alternative methods surfacing to detox from opiates and you can find more information about these methods at www.theaddictionscoach.com

The Addictions Coach: Recovery Services for the Elite in Society

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Recovery Services for the Elite in Society

The Addictions Academy and Addictions Coach of Miami, Florida know how important your reputation and your company’s brand are.  They also know how important it is for you to be at the helm, making sure things are running smoothly; business as usual.  When an Alpha like you has trouble with an addiction, there’s only one place that understands and can help!

Why is The Addictions Academy and The Addictions Coach the best solution?

1. We will protect your anonymity and confidentiality
2. We will come to you with the only mobile rehab in the country
3. We deal with celebrities, famous athletes, and Fortune 500 clients and know what is expected
4. Our Professional Recovery Coaches are the best in the world
5. Our coaches are willing to go with you wherever needed, on set, on tour, your call
6. You don’t need to leave the helm of your business for 30 days or more
7. You set the goals and objectives that you want to achieve
8. Our approach is totally client-driven
9. We understand that special clients have special needs
10. We have over 100 years of experience on board with our company

We know that you have deadlines to meet, quotas to fill, Boards who want answers, and clients who want results.  We understand A-list clients because we specialize in working with them.  Our coaches blend right in, when in the board room, on the golf course, in the clubhouse, on stage, or at the office.  They can escort you to major events, stay with you for periods of time, as needed, send our mobile rehab, or schedule sessions as requested.

Our clients have been professional athletes, A-listers, Rockers, and high-profile business CEOs and Owners who cannot afford to leave their teams, shows, bands, or companies for long periods of time.  Our Professional Recovery Coaches and Mobile Rehab were quick to respond and help our new clients to get back on their feet and back to their passions as soon as possible.

Addiction isn’t about using drugs. It’s about what the drug does to your life.”
― Enock Maregesi

Our highly skilled coaches will work with our clients to reach solutions.  The bottom line is, we get results!  We know that you are busy, you are under a great deal of pressure, and time is of the essence. Our coaches will create an action plan with you that works best for you and your schedule.  Like you, we’re not like all the rest; we are simply the best of the best!

If you have an addiction problem, let our recovery coaches help you get back on track.  Call us today at 1 (800) 706-0318 or visit our website at https://theaddictionscoach.com.  We look forward to working with you.

Cali Estes Ph.D

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The Ten Greatest Reasons to Hire a Professional Coach

The Ten Greatest Reasons to Hire a Professional Coach

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What is the benefit of hiring a Professional Coach in any field: Life Coach, Business Coach, Fitness Coach, Recovery Coach, Family Recovery Coach, or any other specialized coach?

I get asked this question quite often from both sides of the equation: as an instructor of Professional Master Coaches, and as a successful business woman who utilizes a Professional Coach.  I’ll share with you my top ten reasons why I believe anyone should hire a Professional Coach.

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Before I share my thoughts with you on the top ten reasons to hire a Professional Coach, I want to define what a Professional Coach is and what they do.

A Professional Coach is:

A highly trained and very skilled individual
A professional with tools to get the job done
A very motivated individual who motivates others
An ethical and responsible person
A caring people person
A very advanced cheerleader
An action-oriented problem solver
A flexible, goal-driven communication specialist
A perception and perspective changer
A blockage buster and solution finder
It’s also important to look at what Professional Coaches are not to truly understand who they really are.

A Professional Coach is not:

A banker or accountant
A therapist or counselor
A sponsor or twelve-step guide
A psychiatrist
A goal or objective setter
A date or romantic interest
A party pal
A person with a conflict of interest in relation to a client
An uneducated or untrained individual
Interested in selfish, unethical, or illegal matters
Now that I have identified what a Professional Coach is and is not, I would like to describe what a coach does.  Coaching is a results and client driven process where the coach assists the client to reach a solution.  It is a development or training process where a client receives support while working towards goals and objectives via specific action plans, where the coach utilizes core competencies, skill sets, and tools to help the client see past blockages and reach solution or meet goals.  There are many different types of coaching:

Coaching Types and Styles:

1. Business Coaching
2. Recovery Coaching
3. Christian Coaching
4. Executive Coaching
5. Life Coaching
6. Financial Coaching
7. Health and Wellness Coaching
8. Fitness coaching
9. Relationship Coaching
10. Personal coaching
11. Family recovery coaching

There are many different types and styles of coaching; the largest difference today is peer coaching and Professional Coaching.  The difference is just like it sounds, peer coaching is peer to peer often volunteer, and Professional Coaching is a highly trained and skilled individual and almost always paid for their services. Professional Coaches use a range of communication skills such as active listening, powerful questioning, paraphrasing, the natural laws of cause and effect, reading body language, tones, and inflections, observation, intuition, action planning, and other activities. Professional Coaching helps an individual to identify their capabilities and skill sets that already exist internally and put them into motion to reach solutions in all coaching fields.

Now I’ve identified what a Professional Coach is and isn’t and what they do. You have to be prepared before you execute; now you’re ready to get the information you’ve been waiting for. What are the ten greatest benefits of hiring these highly trained and skilled individuals?

  • Every problem has a solution because the problem defines the solution; there is perspective and perception problems that block most clients from getting to solutions on their own, Profession Coaches help clients get past these blocks and reach solutions.
  • We all are human, thus we all suffer from the human condition. We all have blind spots; Professional Coaches can help clients can point out areas of weakness that clients miss or don’t see.
  • We all need someone to hold us accountable. Clients can take on greater responsibility by meeting with their coach on action plans with specific time tables and follow-up.
  • A Professional Coach will help redirect the client when they are off track with their action plan. The coach is trained to be flexible; however, to keep the plan moving forward toward solution.
  • A Professional Coach is trained to bring out the very best in the client through communication skills and other coaching techniques. The client won’t just be spinning in circles, but actually, always moving forward toward solution.
  • The coach brings extra talent to the table. When the client sets the goal, then the coach and client brainstorm together to reach solution; there is twice the creativity.
  • We all need spiritual sounding boards in our lives. Even coaches need coaches! I haven’t met a highly successful person yet who doesn’t have a coach!
  • Professional Coaches celebrate all the victories with the client, no matter how big or small. A win is a win!
  • Clients can communicate with their coach in confidence and confidentiality. The coach will always be supportive and non-judgmental. The coach may suggest change; however, it will be in a positive and nurturing way.
  • Professional Coaches get results! They bring out the best in clients and expect the champion from within to show him or herself.

 

 

This really is a no brainer!  If you could achieve your goal, increase your bottom line, lose those pounds, win that championship, or at least increase your chances for success, wouldn’t you do what it takes?  Professional Coaches make all the difference!

“I’ve seen the power of Life Coaching firsthand and I know how beneficial it can be.”  Leeza Gibbons

The Addictions Academy of Miami, Florida Trains and certifies Professional coaches in several Types and Styles.  The Academy’s instructors are some of the best in the industry, current, knowledgeable, and cutting edge.

The Addictions Academy offers National Certifications and Training in Life Coaching, Recovery Coaching, Family Recovery Coaching, Gambling Addiction Coaching, Food-Addiction Coaching, Sex-Addiction Coaching, Relationship-Addiction Coaching, Fitness Coaching, International Master Addictions Coaching, and much more.
If you would like to hire a Professional Coach you can reach the Addictions Coach at 1-800-706-0318 or visit their website at https://theaddictionscoach.com.  If you are interested in training to become a coach you can contact The Addictions Academy at 800-706-0318 or visit their website at http://ww.theaddictionsacademy.com.

© 2015 Cali Estes, Ph.D

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How Do YOU Benefit from The Addictions Academy Train the Trainer Program?

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How Do You Benefit from The Addictions Academy Train the Trainer Program?

The Addictions Academy is currently granting licenses for instructors that they train to teach their curriculum to their own clientele. This is the first affiliate training program for addiction professionals.  How will you benefit from The Addictions Academy’s Train the Trainer Program and why do you need to become a licensed affiliate?

The top five reasons to sign up for the Addictions Academy’s Train the Trainer program:
1. You will be able to make a great income.
2. You will have the opportunity to help others.
3. You will be able to learn the art of professional addiction recovery coaching, and give back!
4. You will have a direct impact in helping to save thousands of lives!
5. You will be able to reach many more clients.

It’s a no-brainer; a win-win situation for everyone involved.  Just imagine how many more lives can be saved when you are training and educating more professionals to work in this growing and exciting industry.  We will be able to reach more clients with our proven curriculum and systems of educating instructors to teach our educational courses and exams. At present, there is a worldwide demand that can’t be met because of lack of trained personnel.  Clients need our services desperately; people are dying every few minutes from addiction in every town, in every state in every country.

When you become an instructor of Train the trainer, you become the linchpin in the chain of recovery that helps others to find and experience purpose, passion, excitement, and motivation for success by becoming a professional recovery coach, family recovery coach, interventionist, relapse prevention professional, prevention professional, gambling addiction coach, life coach, food addiction coach, or other addiction recovery professional.

You can choose one course, two, or all of the Academy’s courses to train on and become your own instructor.  This innovative program is sweeping the Nation as once again The Addictions Academy is leading the way in the fight against addiction!  The seasoned and professional instructors from the Academy provide support during your entire journey.  They will help you become an excellent instructor, marketer, speaker, presenter, professional, and much more.

The program comes with unlimited support and marketing help from the academy’s expert instructors and curriculum creators.  The program includes twenty-five hours of supervision units with the Academy’s experts, discussing case studies and reviewing difficult tasks.  You will learn about marketing, branding, and have business mentoring by the Academy’s professional experts.  This training is an application only program as the Academy is taking only the finest quality candidates to offer their signature training worldwide.

Program Options
• National Intervention Professional Training (NCIP) It is required that candidates take a live class first.
• Nationally Certified Recovery Coaching level 1 (NCRC) and Level II (NCRC- II)
• Nationally Certified Family Recovery Coaching (NCFRC)
• Nationally Certified Addiction Prevention professional (NCAPP)
• Nationally Certified Relapse Prevention Professional (NCRPP)

How does it work? You pay $4999 for the class of your choice above and it includes the original student class (unless you have completed that), your materials and the 25 hours of supervision and Mentorship on how to become a successful teacher.
You then begin filling your classes at $999 each. Each student pays the Academy $299 for materials, certification papers, certificate papers, CEUs etc. You keep the rest. That is $700 per student per class. If you teach 7 students, you have paid back your original application fee and training fee.  How much income you make is up to you!

The Academy’s Train the Trainer program is a great opportunity for owners and CEOs in the treatment industry, they can save thousands of dollars by training their own staff month after month and year after year bringing a greater profit to their bottom lines.

The truth is, you can’t afford to miss out on this opportunity; you can have trained staff available at all times for a fraction of what you were paying for training in the past.

The Top Five reasons to become a licensed affiliate:
1. You will save thousands of dollars on training with staff members.
2. You will dramatically improve your bottom line.
3. You will always have available, trained staff.
4. The Academy’s program is a tried, tested, and proven a winner!
5. You can’t afford not to!

Professional Value of Courses:

Make yourself marketable to treatment centers as a trainer of trainers

Increase your income & your client base

Learn marketing and branding skills

Learn how to expand your clientele base and start your own Coaching Business

Increase your earning potential (or lower your ROI as a treatment center)

Add Credentials to your Name

CALL NOW TO BECOME YOUR STATE’S REPRESENTATIVE!

If you would like to be the first Train the Trainer representative in your area, please call The Addictions Academy Today at 800-706-0318 or visit their website at http://www.theaddictionsacademy.com . If you want to be the best, you have to be trained by the best!

© 2015  Cali Estes, PhD.

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Old School Drug Making a Violent Comeback in our Nation’s Capital

Old School Drug Making a Violent Comeback in our Nation’s Capital

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This is 2015, not 1981, and PCP use is on a violent rise in our Nation’s Capital, Washington DC.

PCP (phencyclidine) is an illegal hallucinogenic drug notorious for causing violent and bizarre behaviors.

Those who are old enough will remember a huge PCP problem gripped the United States in the ‘80s. Widespread abuse caused public panic and then, somewhat mysteriously, the drug seemingly faded away.

Fast-forward to the present day; PCP usage in Washington DC, our nation’s capital, is rampant. In fact, abuse of the hallucinogen is far higher in DC than in any other major U.S. city. The disturbing trend is best seen among people who are arrested and brought in to area jails, with an overwhelming majority of DC inmates testing positive for PCP during the booking process.

PCP users rank among the smallest group of illegal drug users in the United States but this small group causes the most violent issues, according to law enforcement officers. And to add insult to injury,  there are more law enforcement officers per resident in Washington DC than anywhere else in the country. So this adds to the constant contact between users and police. Once ingested, usually by dippers, this powerful hallucinogenic causes the user to become overly aggressive and violent.

Crazy stories have surfaced like when rapper, Big Lurch, killed his girlfriend, split her chest open and ate parts of her lungs while high on PCP. He was found naked in the street covered in her blood. Yet, he recalls nothing of the incident.

This is just one of many violent and sickening stories that are fueled by this drug. Washington DC police have done their best to Crack down on open air PCP drug sales and have even made penalties extremely harsh for offenders but PCP is extremely hard to find during its export and import due to its liquid form and amber color. It resembles apple juice and is hard to detect.

Have you encountered any use lately?  What is your experience with the drug?

Cali Estes
Top Rated Addiction Recovery and Sober Coaching Services
The Addictions Academy ® – 800-706-0318

 

 

The Addictions Coach: Transfer Addictions – From Drugs to Doughnuts

www.theaddictionscoach.com  1.800.706.0318

 

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For most addicts, an addiction is addiction and food is no different. They complete substance abuse treatment and then begin abusing food and foodstuffs. They may over eat, binge eat, indulge in sugar and caffeine and gain weight. We teach you how to handle the food addiction side when the monster of drugs and alcohol is tamed.   If you need help dealing with an addiction, The Addictions Coach can help!  We also teach those who want to help others with food addiction!  Visit us at www.theaddictionsacademy.com

Read on….

Excerpt from Off the Drugs, onto the Cupcakes

By ABBY ELLIN
The New York Times

“Once off the drugs, the brain craves the uber rewards of the hyperpalatables — Mint Milanos, Oreos, any sugar. An apple’s reward doesn’t cut it,” said Dr. Pamela Peeke, an assistant professor of medicine at the University of Maryland and author of “The Hunger Fix.”

“So you end up with the transfer addiction,” she added. “Off the cocaine, onto the cupcakes.”

Research has found that food and drugs have similar influence on the brain’s reward center. A 2013 study published in The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition reported that sugar, not fat, stimulates cravings.

And a widely cited study from that year found that Oreo cookies activated the nucleus accumbens, the brain’s pleasure or reward center, as much as cocaine and morphine, at least in laboratory rats.

This has an effect not only on the addict’s neural pathways, but also on the addict’s psyche and self-esteem.

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Los Angeles Sober Coach: Infidelity, Sex Addiction, and Ashley Madison

Los Angeles Sober Coach:  Infidelity, Sex Addiction, and Ashley Madison
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This Summer, a story broke that has caused more stir than a lot of headlines in recent memory—the Ashley Madison hack. If you missed the story, Ashley Madison is the world’s most popular online dating site, a Toronto-based website that facilitates affairs for married people.
Last week, hackers released the usernames and/or emails for 32-million of the site’s users. As you can imagine, since the data leak, the legal, social and psychological implications have been widespread. The issue at the core of this story, is not who was on the website, but why. Until this story broke, many people were probably in the dark about what an epidemic infidelity really is, but the numbers speak for themselves: 57% of men admit to having cheated in a relationship, 54% of women admit to having cheated in a relationship. There are approximately 40 million registered users on AshleyMadison.com. We also have to inflate these numbers a bit to get the real picture, since the top numbers only apply to those who have admitted infidelity, and there’s obviously another portion of the population committing adultery without the aid of a website.
Infidelity and sexual addiction are addictions that have more shame attached to them than any other addictions in the world. What many people don’t realize, is that infidelity rarely happens due to a problem in the relationship, it is driven by a few factors: feeling “not good enough”, feelings of abandonment, and ultimately—trauma. These feelings of abandonment, rejection and low self-worth are things we have all felt at some point in our lives, and as Kim Barthel and Theo Fleury discuss in ‘Conversations with a Rattlesnake’, many of us feel these for the first time as infants. “Negative triggers can come from implicit memories of early developmental trauma, such as chaos, neglect, abuse. Infants have to learn to read their caregivers in order to know how to communicate their needs. These back and forth interactions between babies and their parents are the earliest implicit memories we have.” — Kim Barthel, from ‘Conversations with a Rattlesnake’
These early developments of human connection influence how we interact with other people as we grow older. Different forms of trauma may be involved in the development of sex addiction. The trauma may be developmental, or there may be excessive encouragement of sexuality early on. Trauma, such as sexual abuse, can also create unhealthy sexual development, interfering with physical, emotional, and psychological processes conducive to healthy sexual behavior. We already know that one in three people has experienced some form of trauma in their lives, so what makes sexual addiction or infidelity different from any other addiction? Nothing.
True sex addicts, suffer from a cycle of self-destructive behaviour. A pain agent or emotional discomfort (fear, shame, anger, for example) triggers the cycle. The person removes themselves from their emotions yielding a kind of numbing state, eliminating awareness of consequences, and leaving only awareness of pleasure.”
 — Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D., sexual disorder researcher. When the addiction is triggered, the addict yearns for that numbing state, which is why they will look to places where they can feed their addiction easily, such as sex lines or websites. Enter infidelity. “If you don’t deal with the trauma you’ve suffered, the patterns will repeat themselves and manifest in many different ways.” — Theo Fleury, from ‘Conversations with a Rattlesnake’.
Now “dealing with the trauma” is a very interesting phrase because we are going to see a fall out on both sides of the coin when it comes to the hacking of Ashley Madison. For those married men and women who have now been made public and who now have some explaining to do with their significant other, we will now see a spike in drug and alcohol abuse as a coping mechanism. As we stated above, this isn’t the way to go or deal with the predicament that they have put themselves and their spouse in. And on the flip side of this uncomfortable situation, we will see a spike in drug and alcohol abuse in the spouse who was cheated on. The betrayal may be too much for a person who has struggled with drugs and alcohol in the past. Because this addictive behavior involves two people joined in marriage most of the time, we strongly encourage those affected to look for help and guidance at Top Rated Addiction Recovery and Sober Coaching Services or call us at 1-800-706-0318

Los Angeles Sober Coach: Young Athletes Being Turned into Heroin Addicts

Los Angeles Sober Coach: Young Athletes Being Turned into Heroin Addicts
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Roman Montano had barely learned cursive when he was asked to sign his first baseball. Parents of teammates had watched him dominate game after game in Albuquerque’s Little League during the summer of 2000, mowing down batters and belting home runs. The autograph requests were mostly facetious, but what they signified was clear: The kid was going somewhere. The next few years only confirmed that notion.
Roman grew to 6’6″ and 250 pounds. He made a mockery of the weight room at Eldorado High and ran the 40-yard dash in 4.9. As a sophomore defensive  lineman he was honorable mention all-state in Class 5A. He also joined the basketball team his senior year, giving in to the pleadings of the coach, and was instantly the Eagles’ best player. And after high school, when he trained with the legion of MMA fighters based in Albuquerque, they encouraged him to compete as a heavyweight.  Baseball though, was always his favorite sport—”the most funnest,” as he had put it to the Albuquerque Tribune when he was 12. He once struck out all 18 batters in a Thunderbird League game. The towering righty was Eldorado High’s ace, his fastball reaching the 90s. The second starter? Ken Giles, now a flame-throwing Phillies reliever. “You’re talking about a guy with a ton of potential: size, natural ability, attitude,” Giles says. “Everyone wanted to be him, but everyone wanted to be around him, too. The first word I would  use to describe Roman is lovable.”
A foot injury his junior year didn’t derail Roman. He needed minor surgery on a small bone, but he popped some OxyContin and after a few weeks was back on the mound. His senior year Roman planned to lead Eldorado to a state title and then declare for the 2008 major league draft (the Braves had expressed the most interest in him), spurning about 20 Division I scholarship offers. Before the season, though, Roman committed one of those judgment-deprived acts for which teenagers are known. He and some friends used a stolen credit card at a mall. They got caught. The school found out. Though it was Roman’s first offense, he was kicked off the team. Humiliated, angry and depressed, Roman thought back to the numbing effect of the OxyContin. His prescription had run out, but that wasn’t much of an impediment. In the upscale Northeast Heights—more High School Musical Albuquerque than Breaking Bad Albuquerque—painkillers were competing with marijuana and alcohol as the party drug of choice. “There are pill parties,” says Roman’s younger brother, Beau. “[Pills are] so easy to get. They’re everywhere.”
Roman was soon in the grip of Oxy. He lost interest in baseball. He showed up high for graduation. JoAnn Montano and her husband, Bo, who owns a wheel-alignment and body-shop business, figured their son was just floundering—until JoAnn caught him using. She took him to an addiction center, and he was prescribed Suboxone to treat his opioid dependency.Roman, though, couldn’t fully kick his habit. Before graduation he had switched to a cheaper substance that offered the same high at a lower price: heroin.  At first Roman smoked “black” (black-tar heroin), a relatively crude version of the drug that was easy to obtain. Then he began using intravenously. But he hid his addiction well. He stayed on Suboxone, took up competitive bodybuilding and started training at an MMA gym. He had a job selling phones for Verizon. “He looked so healthy, a big, strapping guy, not like a junkie,” says Bo. “He was back doing his athletics. We thought the addiction was behind us. We didn’t know how cunning and how manipulative this drug is.”
On May 2, 2012, Roman was supposed to lift weights with his father in the morning. Roman didn’t show up, and texts to him went unanswered. His fiancée, Mikaila Lovato, couldn’t find him either.  In the evening two chaplains went to the Montanos’ house, asking for Roman’s next of kin. They said that Roman had been found slumped in the driver’s seat of his car behind a FedEx store, a syringe in his arm, the motor running. He was 22 and dead from a heroin overdose. This is just one personal story of many that are now flooding our sports teams. Heroin overdoses have tripled in the past 5 years in the sports industry and it all seems to start with the same story.  An injury leading to pain pills, the pills leading to heroin and heroin leading to overdoses and death. We are here to help at Top Rated Addiction Recovery and Sober Coaching Services Don’t let your addiction take your life.

New York Sober Coach: 7 Secrets of a Sober Companion

New York Sober Coach: 7 Secrets of a Sober Companion 

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7 Secrets of a Sober Companion

A sober companion is not a sponsor, a lawyer, accountant, advisor, bookie, or lover!  A sober companion is an individual, working full- time with clients in a recovery coaching role.  At times nights, weekends, extended periods, or twenty-four hours a day, travel, live in, from several weeks to months, or longer.  The relationship begins with treatment discharge, or where there is need. The client returning home from treatment, leaves a drug-free environment for a situation where they know there could be problems. A Long Term Recovery Coach or Sober Companion will provide the symbolic safety of treatment.  A Long Term Sober Companion will introduce the client to the modalities of recovery; help them deal with triggers, and help them with an action plan. A Long Term Recovery Coach or Sober Companion will help the client to make life changes and work toward solutions needed.

Secret #1: Sober companions are highly trained professionals.
Sober companions go through rigorous training learning tools, techniques, skill sets, and competencies that aid them in their work.  Granted not all companions are the same, it depends on where they were trained and their level of training.

Secret #2: Sober companions are held to very high ethical standards.
Ethics are a very important part of any sober companion’s training.  They must learn all of the requirements and set boundaries, follow rules and regulations, and expectations.  There are ten categories of ethical standards that all companions are held to:
Fraud related conduct
Safety and welfare
Professional standards
Confidentiality
Unlawful conduct
Sexual Misconduct
Exploitation of clients
Record Keeping
Cooperation with investigations
Assisting unqualified practice

Secret #3: The practice of sober companions is goal and client driven.
Although the companion can assist with the action plan, the client must set the goal.  The companion never ever sets the goal in the action plan for the client.  Once the client sets the goal the companion will help with the action and specifics with follow up and time tables of when each task must be completed for success.  Action plans lead to success.
Secret #4: If you don’t like working with a certain sober companion, you can choose a different one.
Not all people click!  Sometimes two people just don’t mesh.  If you find that your companion is a dud, or they bore you to death, simply find a different one.  A word to the warning though, if this keeps happening it may be you.  You should be happy with your companion; you will be spending a good deal of time with them.
Secret #5: Sober companions will go to special events with you and help you make it through the event sober.
Sometimes weddings, funerals, and major life events can be gigantic triggers for those in early recovery.  Sober companions will go with you to events and help guide you through all of your triggers and provide you with coping mechanisms to get through sober and safe.  It doesn’t matter if you’re a lead singer playing a gig, or the best man in your cousin’s wedding, a sober companion will dress the part, and be right there with you.
Secret #6: All sober companions are not the same.
Sober companions come from all walks of life, all different backgrounds.  Some companions are in recovery, some are not, some are religious, some are not, some are spiritual, some are funny, some are more highly educated than others, and they have many different perspectives and worldviews.  The most important factor is that you find a sober companion who is highly trained.
Secret #7: You can become a sober Companion, yes you!
Imagine that! You could train to become an excellent sober companion and help change people’s lives for the better.  The Addictions Academy of Miami, Florida trains Companions, recovery coaches, interventionists, and all kinds of recovery professionals.  You can visit their website at www.theaddictionsacademy.com or call 800-706-0318 for more information on how to become a sober companion or recovery coach.
There is no secret that these wonderful professionals are helping to change and save lives each and every day.  Aftercare is paramount to long-term recovery and coaching and companions are very important in the big picture.  The need is overwhelming, there are not enough people to help all those in need at present.  Many more coaches and companions will be needed going forward in the war on addiction.  The bottom line is that sober companions make a difference.

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