24 Hour Fitness Staff Body Shamed me for being ‘TOO FIT’

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An Open Letter to 24 Hour Fitness, Miramar Club Florida RED Road Location

August 6, 2016

Dear Megan, Operations Manager,

On August 4th 2016, I was working out on the Gauntlet Stepper and you took it upon yourself to come over to me and interrupt my workout to tell me that my ‘shorts were too short for YOUR liking’. At first I didn’t respond to you, not because I was being rude, but because I was in shock. I have been a member of 24 Hour Fitness since 2003 and I am a 6-year member of LA Fitness and a 1-year member of Planet Fitness. Not once has anyone ever approached me in any club, in any state (and I travel A LOT Megan) to tell me my shorts were ‘too short’. In fact, the lady in the neon yellow halter top nearby me had her Double D implants pushed up and all but her nipples showing and you had no issues with her. Then there was the lady in the white tank top with no bra underneath and you could see everything. But you didn’t approach them did you?  After all, this is Miami and SOFLA is known as the ‘sexy city’.

I responded out of confusion mostly to you, with ‘I am not sure what you mean,’ and Megan you asked me to ‘cover up with a jacket, so as not to offend YOU’. Well, I am not sure where you are from but it is August in Miami and most folks down here don’t carry a jacket in the summer with temps in the 90’s and hot humidity. Carrying a jacket is not a norm for us folks here. When I responded by shaking my head ‘no’ (I was really still in shock and by now my client on the phone had heard the conversation and was asking me what was going on) you asked me to ‘change my clothes’. Change into what? A potato sack so you can’t see any of the hard work I put into my legs or glutes? What did you think – I had several sets of workout gear just hanging out in my purse to accommodate your needs?

Then you dropped the hammer. You asked me to ‘wear pants in the gym because (and my jaw must have opened here) my bum was too fit for my shorts?’ WHHAATTTT? Let’s just stop here. Did you just body shame me for being FIT?  Why, yes you did, and in the gym that got my bum that nice heart shape. AND you suggested I wear pants to cover up that nice bum that I worked so hard to get, so as not to offend YOU personally.  I don’t think I even responded. I was in shock, and Megan it takes A LOT to shock me. You did it, you won via Body Shaming. Way to Go Champ!

I won’t wear pants in August in Miami. I don’t sweat because of my thyroid problem and if I wear pants in summer in Miami and workout, I will probably end up in the hospital. BUT, then you wouldn’t be offended calling 911 to come save me because I will be fully covered up from head to toe.  At least I won’t offend YOU Megan. Let me grab that potato sack. I guess my heart-shaped bum is a problem? Isn’t that what we are supposed to achieve by having a membership at 24 Hour Fitness?

Megan, what you don’t know is I spent my entire life being told I was ‘too fat’ and to ‘cover up because I was offending someone’.  Now that I am fit and work my ass off literally to stay fit, you tell me to ‘cover up’ because I am offending YOU. You never said I was violating any 24 Hour Fitness Policy, or any 24 Hour Fitness rule, which I asked you about when I said ‘well, no one has ever once told me my outfit was not appropriate since 2003’ and your response? Classic. You said ‘No one ever told ME until now about your shorts’. I am sorry but when did the dress policy of 24 Hour Fitness become “it is up to the individual employee’s opinion to harass a customer based upon their own concern of offensiveness???” I highly doubt 24 Hour Fitness would leave it up to the employee’s discretion of whom to target and whom not to. But, then again Megan, you are a MANAGER, I am sure you know the policy. Does it contain a Potato Sack clause so my hind end is not too ‘exposed’ for you?

So Megan, Operations Manger at the 24 Hour Miramar Florida location on Red Road, I want to ask you this: Should I, as a customer, be offended that you are clearly out of shape, despite you work at a gym and you should be a model for all of us customers? You should inspire us to want to work out and come to the gym and buy personal training and drinks and merchandise and spend money in the store you have. Should I ask you why you are not in shape? Maybe you have a thyroid issue? Maybe you are pregnant? Maybe you have an eating disorder that I can’t tell from just looking at you? Maybe you eat too much or just don’t care how you look. Maybe you are happy at the weight and shape you are? Maybe you have lost 100 lbs. and are on a diet?

I would ask you, but it is none of my business, I don’t Body Shame.  It is not my place to be offended or to judge you, Megan.

I don’t even notice how you look Megan, because I don’t judge other women: fit, fat, tall, short, plastic. It is none of my business what they wear, or how they look, as long as they are happy. I am not offended when a woman has Double D implants and a tiny waist (I think good for her; her self-esteem is so high she rocks that!) So what made you approach me and tell me how OFFENDED you were with my shorts?  You obviously needed to Body Shame me.

What you didn’t know Megan, is that I have been body shamed my entire life. Too fat, too thin, too fit. Women ALWAYS have an issue. You took me right back to being fat and being told to cover up. The difference now, is I am educated enough to know it isn’t about my shorts, it is about how you feel about yourself that you have an issue with and you directed it towards me in particular. Well, the job location is not the place for this behavior. You should want to make your customers feel secure and buy more items to increase revenue for 24 Hour Fitness and not write articles like these to portray 24 Hour Fitness in bad taste.

I thought a gym is where you come to get your fat body fit, a place you can work out without shame and embarrassment, a safe haven? Apparently Megan, the Operations Manager at 24 Hour Fitness in Miramar, Florida, on Red Road, doesn’t think so. You need to meet HER personal dress requirements, which incidentally, I was one of two white people in the ENTIRE gym.

I approached Tony, the manager, in my shorts and asked him if my attire was appropriate. He not only said it was fine but he also informed me that is NOT a policy of 24 Hour fitness to approach customers and ask them to change or cover up. My baby sister works for LA Fitness and their policy is the same.

Megan, you Bully Body Shamed the WRONG chick. Not only am I going to let 24 Hour Fitness know that you need some help (therapy perhaps?) I will make it go viral as Body Shaming in any form at any time should not be tolerated or accepted, especially when you are working in a gym that wants to have its members fit and happy.

And for the girls and women that are dealing with the Bullies that Body Shame us, I hear you. It affects us at the core, and makes us wonder if we are really OK. Just know you are, and keep doing what you are doing. There will ALWAYS be haters, even at the gym.


Cali Estes

1.800.706.0318 Ext 1

The Addictions Academy: 7 Ways Sugar is as Addictive as Drugs like Cocaine and Heroin.

Addictions can come in many forms! If you are passionate about helping others overcome their addictions, realizing that an addiction to food can be just as serious as dealing with an addiction to hardcore drugs like cocaine and heroin is crucial.

Read on for 7 ways SUGAR is as addictive as drugs like COCAINE and HEROIN.  Then visit or call 1.800.706.0318 to learn more about becoming a Nationally Certified Food Addictions Coach, and register for our next upcoming class MARCH 24th and 25th!


7 Ways Sugar is as addictive as Drugs like Cocaine and Heroin.

By Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach

Sitting in the car with a box of doughnuts in hand, fresh from the bakery drive-thru can be one of the most rewarding and exhilarating feelings in the world. They smell so good, and taste even better. But eating just one isn’t enough. You have 2 and maybe 3. Then you set them down and come back a few hours later because they are in the house. You finish the box. You feel sick, unhappy, depressed even. Now you are craving more sugar products. What happened? Here are 7 ways that sugar is as addictive as hardcore drugs like heroin and cocaine. 

1.       Chemically, sugar pings the brain just like cocaine. That means it affects your reward and pleasure systems just like an addictive hardcore drug. Your brain literally doesn’t know the difference. It just knows it likes it and wants more and more and more. So you think about it, obsess over it. You crave it, just like drugs. AND you are not happy until you have it. Then you feel guilty, remorseful, sad, angry, upset, just like drugs. The cycle – the vicious cycle – has begun.

2.       When you do not have sugar you feel sick. You get a headache, you feel tired, lethargic, depressed.  You don’t want to work out, go out, or do much. Your head pounds. You are detoxing, just like heroin. Sure you may not be vomiting and have the sweats and the chills but you are definitely coming off of the drug, sugar. Your body craves it, wants it. You think, just a little and I will feel better, just to rid myself of this headache. Then a little becomes a lot. Just like drugs. 

3.       You obsess when you do not have sugar. You think about candy, cake, cookies, ice cream. Your thoughts during the day revolve around when you can go to the vending machine for the snickers bar, the can of soda or the handful of chocolate you have on your desk.  You want it and you want it often. Denying yourself of it only makes the obsessive and racing thoughts get louder, just like cocaine.

4.       You plan your entire day around when you can have it. You might drive home from work the long way just to go through the drive thru and get an ice cream or a latte. You plan events that involve dessert or gatherings where sugar is present. You may offer to bring the cake to the party, so you can be sure there is dessert available. This is similar to the way a drug addict plans their route to go by the dealers house and ‘just happen to be in the neighborhood’ when they want to buy heroin or cocaine. 

5.       You swear you are going to ‘go off sugar’ and you are not going to touch it again. Just like getting a white chip, it sounds good now, after you’ve had 6 doughnuts and feel sick. But once you are not full and sick of the sweets you rethink that decision and say ‘just one more cookie, one more candy, one more lollipop then I swear I won’t touch it’. The same thing happens when we decide to get sober, we make a pact, we set forth the rules and then, inevitably we relapse and start all over. Sugar is no different. We crave it, we want it. Sugar is both chemically and emotionally just as addictive as drugs. AND it is in everything.

6.       You try everything, you drink tea, chew on a straw, buy a lotto ticket, smoke a cigarette, anything to get your mind off sugar. But it creeps in, just like drugs, you are emotionally and now physically addicted. You can’t stop the inner chatter or the physical detox. It is annoying, it is painful and it can be stopped with just one candy bar. You rationalize. “It is legal, it is not that bad, you can’t make me quit this too, everyone has sugar, I am not that fat so what is the issue?” and on and on and on. You talk yourself right into the sugar snack. Game on, the cycle continues.

7.       You tie your emotions to the eating process. You may trade drugs for sugar or be a true food addict where you feel guilty while binging on the snacks. You eat over the sink, you hide snacks in your desk, purse, car, even pockets. You don’t want others to know your ‘dirty little secret’. At meals you eat small portions in front of others but as soon as you leave you stop and buy ice cream to take home and eat.  Just like a drug addict, you won’t want anyone to know. You are embarrassed.  

Unlike drugs that you do not need to survive, you do need to eat and sugar seems to be in everything! Going to the grocery store, restaurant or even snack bar is a problem.   We all know that there is sugar in cake, cookies, candy and ice cream but how about pasta sauce? Or yogurt? Tons of sugar!  Sugar is beyond just as addictive as drugs and as a nation we are creating a whole new breed of addict with a legal substance.

So what can you do? All hope is not lost. Start with a realistic version of what you want to accomplish. Do you want to cut back on your sugar consumption or quit altogether? Start a food journal and track your moods and foods, notice when you crave the sweets. Stay full, use nuts, berries, bananas and other fruits to curb the sweet tooth. If you are full and had a sweet piece of fruit, you are less like to reach for cake, candy, cookies and more. The less sugar you eat the better you will feel and as you begin to detox from the sugar if you go back it you will notice it is sweeter and less palatable.

If you need a food addiction coach for added accountability and to hold your hand the through the process we are here! The first two weeks are uncomfortable just like a drug detox, but after that it becomes easier.

Cali Estes, PHD, CAP, ICADC, CEO of The Addictions Coach has been working with food addiction and drug and alcohol addiction for over 20 years. She resides in Miami but travels to LA and NYC to visit with her clients. She also offers a mobile rehab and sober companion and sober coach service. You can reach her or at 1.800.706.0318


The Addictions Coach: “Smokin’ in the Boys room”, has become Vaping on the Bus.


The Addictions Coach: “Smokin’ in the Boys room”, has become Vaping on the Bus.

Smoking in the boys room sounds way cooler than vaping on the bus. Cali Estes’ hometown high school arrests students…..

 Four At Pottsgrove High Arrested In Bus Vaping

Excerpt from Sanatoga Post article:

SANATOGA PA – Four Pottsgrove High School students – all juveniles age 18 or younger – were arrested sometime during September (2015) for allegedly using vapor cigarettes while riding on a school bus, according to a Lower Pottsgrove Police Department monthly report released Monday (Oct. 5).

The bus vaping incident was noted by police department School Resource Officer (SRO) David Slothower as part of last month’s police activity materials distributed to the township Board of Commissioners. The individuals arrested were not identified in any way, but a few details surrounding the arrests were offered by Police Chief Michael Foltz.

Foltz said the four allegedly were engaged in vaping, a practice of inhaling and exhaling vapor produced by an electronic cigarette or similar battery-powered devices. Generally, the devices atomize a liquid that contains small amounts of nicotine and simulate the experience of smoking.

Using these devices on a school bus is a violation of state law, specifically PA Crime Code Section 6306.1 (Use of Tobacco in Schools Prohibited), Foltz explained in an e-mail Tuesday to The Post. The stated prohibition includes the use of “lighted or unlighted cigarettes, cigars, pipes, or other lighted smoking products and smokeless tobacco in any form. Thus, it does cover vapes,” Foltz added.

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The Addictions Coach: Which Detox is Worse? Oxy, Heroin, or Methadone

The Addictions Coach: Which Detox is Worse?  Oxy, Heroin, or Methadone.

Client, ‘John Doe’, is interviewed by Cali Estes of The Addictions Coach.   He shares his experiences with detoxing off of these three drugs, and the one he picks as the worst to detox may surprise you.  We can help you recover from your addiction, or work with you to stay clean and sober if you are in recovery.  Visit us at  or call 1.800.706.0318

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This is a first hand, personal account of an opiate user’s detox from Oxy, then Heroin and then Methadone. The most trying detox of the three may surprise you.

In 2009 John moved to Miami having never touched an opiate in his life, but after living in the pain pill capitol of Florida for over a year his curiosity got the best of him. A coworker turned him on to 15mg Roxy which rapidly turned into a habit. For the first 90 days John didn’t seem to detox when he didn’t have the pills, just a little tired. That’s when the whole game changed. Getting bored with the 15mg Roxies, John raised the bar to 30mg Roxy and within weeks increased to two 30mgs at a time.

Around mid 2010, Miami and all of South Florida really cracked down on local pill mills which led to John’s detox from Roxy. The scientific side of this is Roxy has a shorter half-life than other opiates so it leaves the body quicker so you get sick faster and it is very intense, but it is also over much quicker. With the Roxy, just getting through the first 72 hours is the key. Being a touring musician John left Miami for 5 weeks and seemed to have dodged a major bullet. So you would think.

Within 2 weeks of returning from the road, John started looking for pills again with no luck. That’s when his old dealer turned him on to Heroin which was cheaper and much more available. In John’s mind he had struck gold, a $100 a day roxy habit was now a $40 a day heroin habit. But true to form, that $40 a day heroin habit quickly turned into a $80 a day habit and then right back to $100 a day.

This usage lasted 2 years until personal and financial issues put the brakes on his party. This is where our first detox comparison comes in. John had quit Roxy cold turkey and suffered for 48 hours so he went into this situation with the same mindset. Huge mistake! At about the 24 hour mark from his last heroin dose the detox grabbed him physically and began 7 days of living  Hell. The first 48 hours of this new heroin detox immobilized John. He couldn’t get out of bed while violently throwing up and couldn’t even keep liquid down which contributed to major dehydration. Days 3 and 4 weren’t any better. Still not being able to eat, John had no energy at all. It took every ounce of will just to walk to the kitchen and bathroom. Thinking he was going to die, John suffered through the insomnia and night sweats until Day 6. Keep in mind, this detox has been much longer than the Roxy detox. Day 6 detoxing from Heroin seemed to give John some hope. Still fatigued with zero energy, John’s other physical symptoms had gone. Now it was just dealing with being tired. By Day 9 he was fine. But how soon we forget the bad part of addiction.

After 90 days of no Heroin or opiates, John found himself craving a few bags of Heroin and temptation gave in and within days he was in full blown usage again. Over the past year he knew he had to stop. He tried a few times but all the memories of the prior detox reminded him that help was needed. He could not go through that 7 day period again. After researching his options John decided to give Methadone a try and at first it worked like magic. 24 hours after his last Heroin dose John took his first dose of Methadone. Expecting the worst, John entered Day 1 with tons of anxiety but no sickness occurred. He continued the Methadone daily and there was never any sickness. Just a little lethargy, but no sickness. After 2 weeks on Methadone John felt safe to taper down and stop.

This is where our final detox comparison comes in. Keep in mind that John only used Methadone for 2 weeks. Methadone has a much longer half-life and can last upwards of 36 hours before it even begins to leave the body. This can give a false sense of security when stopping. You will detox from Methadone and it could take 3 days before you began to feel sick. This is exactly what happened to John. Day 1 and 2 after stopping Methadone showed no signs of detox. But Day 3 was a different story. Complete fatigue set in and John began to fear the worst. Day 4 and 5 was another 48 hour window of complete fatigue. By Day 6 the stomach issues were back in full force along with the night sweats. Day 7 welcomed back the insomnia and for the next week John suffered through no energy, night sweats and insomnia for a total of a 2 week detox off Methadone. Twice the time of detox off Heroin and 3 times the detox off Roxy.

Methadone is a publicly supported maintenance program to detox from other opiates. This account is from an actual opiate user and the above story is his account of each detox. There are alternative methods surfacing to detox from opiates and you can find more information about these methods at

The Addictions Coach: 7 Steps to Survive the First 7 Days of Heroin Withdrawal

The Addictions Coach: Recovery Services for the Elite in Society

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Recovery Services for the Elite in Society

The Addictions Academy and Addictions Coach of Miami, Florida know how important your reputation and your company’s brand are.  They also know how important it is for you to be at the helm, making sure things are running smoothly; business as usual.  When an Alpha like you has trouble with an addiction, there’s only one place that understands and can help!

Why is The Addictions Academy and The Addictions Coach the best solution?

1. We will protect your anonymity and confidentiality
2. We will come to you with the only mobile rehab in the country
3. We deal with celebrities, famous athletes, and Fortune 500 clients and know what is expected
4. Our Professional Recovery Coaches are the best in the world
5. Our coaches are willing to go with you wherever needed, on set, on tour, your call
6. You don’t need to leave the helm of your business for 30 days or more
7. You set the goals and objectives that you want to achieve
8. Our approach is totally client-driven
9. We understand that special clients have special needs
10. We have over 100 years of experience on board with our company

We know that you have deadlines to meet, quotas to fill, Boards who want answers, and clients who want results.  We understand A-list clients because we specialize in working with them.  Our coaches blend right in, when in the board room, on the golf course, in the clubhouse, on stage, or at the office.  They can escort you to major events, stay with you for periods of time, as needed, send our mobile rehab, or schedule sessions as requested.

Our clients have been professional athletes, A-listers, Rockers, and high-profile business CEOs and Owners who cannot afford to leave their teams, shows, bands, or companies for long periods of time.  Our Professional Recovery Coaches and Mobile Rehab were quick to respond and help our new clients to get back on their feet and back to their passions as soon as possible.

Addiction isn’t about using drugs. It’s about what the drug does to your life.”
― Enock Maregesi

Our highly skilled coaches will work with our clients to reach solutions.  The bottom line is, we get results!  We know that you are busy, you are under a great deal of pressure, and time is of the essence. Our coaches will create an action plan with you that works best for you and your schedule.  Like you, we’re not like all the rest; we are simply the best of the best!

If you have an addiction problem, let our recovery coaches help you get back on track.  Call us today at 1 (800) 706-0318 or visit our website at  We look forward to working with you.

Cali Estes Ph.D

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The Ten Greatest Reasons to Hire a Professional Coach

The Ten Greatest Reasons to Hire a Professional Coach

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What is the benefit of hiring a Professional Coach in any field: Life Coach, Business Coach, Fitness Coach, Recovery Coach, Family Recovery Coach, or any other specialized coach?

I get asked this question quite often from both sides of the equation: as an instructor of Professional Master Coaches, and as a successful business woman who utilizes a Professional Coach.  I’ll share with you my top ten reasons why I believe anyone should hire a Professional Coach.

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Before I share my thoughts with you on the top ten reasons to hire a Professional Coach, I want to define what a Professional Coach is and what they do.

A Professional Coach is:

A highly trained and very skilled individual
A professional with tools to get the job done
A very motivated individual who motivates others
An ethical and responsible person
A caring people person
A very advanced cheerleader
An action-oriented problem solver
A flexible, goal-driven communication specialist
A perception and perspective changer
A blockage buster and solution finder
It’s also important to look at what Professional Coaches are not to truly understand who they really are.

A Professional Coach is not:

A banker or accountant
A therapist or counselor
A sponsor or twelve-step guide
A psychiatrist
A goal or objective setter
A date or romantic interest
A party pal
A person with a conflict of interest in relation to a client
An uneducated or untrained individual
Interested in selfish, unethical, or illegal matters
Now that I have identified what a Professional Coach is and is not, I would like to describe what a coach does.  Coaching is a results and client driven process where the coach assists the client to reach a solution.  It is a development or training process where a client receives support while working towards goals and objectives via specific action plans, where the coach utilizes core competencies, skill sets, and tools to help the client see past blockages and reach solution or meet goals.  There are many different types of coaching:

Coaching Types and Styles:

1. Business Coaching
2. Recovery Coaching
3. Christian Coaching
4. Executive Coaching
5. Life Coaching
6. Financial Coaching
7. Health and Wellness Coaching
8. Fitness coaching
9. Relationship Coaching
10. Personal coaching
11. Family recovery coaching

There are many different types and styles of coaching; the largest difference today is peer coaching and Professional Coaching.  The difference is just like it sounds, peer coaching is peer to peer often volunteer, and Professional Coaching is a highly trained and skilled individual and almost always paid for their services. Professional Coaches use a range of communication skills such as active listening, powerful questioning, paraphrasing, the natural laws of cause and effect, reading body language, tones, and inflections, observation, intuition, action planning, and other activities. Professional Coaching helps an individual to identify their capabilities and skill sets that already exist internally and put them into motion to reach solutions in all coaching fields.

Now I’ve identified what a Professional Coach is and isn’t and what they do. You have to be prepared before you execute; now you’re ready to get the information you’ve been waiting for. What are the ten greatest benefits of hiring these highly trained and skilled individuals?

  • Every problem has a solution because the problem defines the solution; there is perspective and perception problems that block most clients from getting to solutions on their own, Profession Coaches help clients get past these blocks and reach solutions.
  • We all are human, thus we all suffer from the human condition. We all have blind spots; Professional Coaches can help clients can point out areas of weakness that clients miss or don’t see.
  • We all need someone to hold us accountable. Clients can take on greater responsibility by meeting with their coach on action plans with specific time tables and follow-up.
  • A Professional Coach will help redirect the client when they are off track with their action plan. The coach is trained to be flexible; however, to keep the plan moving forward toward solution.
  • A Professional Coach is trained to bring out the very best in the client through communication skills and other coaching techniques. The client won’t just be spinning in circles, but actually, always moving forward toward solution.
  • The coach brings extra talent to the table. When the client sets the goal, then the coach and client brainstorm together to reach solution; there is twice the creativity.
  • We all need spiritual sounding boards in our lives. Even coaches need coaches! I haven’t met a highly successful person yet who doesn’t have a coach!
  • Professional Coaches celebrate all the victories with the client, no matter how big or small. A win is a win!
  • Clients can communicate with their coach in confidence and confidentiality. The coach will always be supportive and non-judgmental. The coach may suggest change; however, it will be in a positive and nurturing way.
  • Professional Coaches get results! They bring out the best in clients and expect the champion from within to show him or herself.



This really is a no brainer!  If you could achieve your goal, increase your bottom line, lose those pounds, win that championship, or at least increase your chances for success, wouldn’t you do what it takes?  Professional Coaches make all the difference!

“I’ve seen the power of Life Coaching firsthand and I know how beneficial it can be.”  Leeza Gibbons

The Addictions Academy of Miami, Florida Trains and certifies Professional coaches in several Types and Styles.  The Academy’s instructors are some of the best in the industry, current, knowledgeable, and cutting edge.

The Addictions Academy offers National Certifications and Training in Life Coaching, Recovery Coaching, Family Recovery Coaching, Gambling Addiction Coaching, Food-Addiction Coaching, Sex-Addiction Coaching, Relationship-Addiction Coaching, Fitness Coaching, International Master Addictions Coaching, and much more.
If you would like to hire a Professional Coach you can reach the Addictions Coach at 1-800-706-0318 or visit their website at  If you are interested in training to become a coach you can contact The Addictions Academy at 800-706-0318 or visit their website at

© 2015 Cali Estes, Ph.D

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New York Sober Coach: 7 Secrets of a Sober Companion

New York Sober Coach: 7 Secrets of a Sober Companion


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7 Secrets of a Sober Companion

A sober companion is not a sponsor, a lawyer, accountant, advisor, bookie, or lover!  A sober companion is an individual, working full- time with clients in a recovery coaching role.  At times nights, weekends, extended periods, or twenty-four hours a day, travel, live in, from several weeks to months, or longer.  The relationship begins with treatment discharge, or where there is need. The client returning home from treatment, leaves a drug-free environment for a situation where they know there could be problems. A Long Term Recovery Coach or Sober Companion will provide the symbolic safety of treatment.  A Long Term Sober Companion will introduce the client to the modalities of recovery; help them deal with triggers, and help them with an action plan. A Long Term Recovery Coach or Sober Companion will help the client to make life changes and work toward solutions needed.

Secret #1: Sober companions are highly trained professionals.
Sober companions go through rigorous training learning tools, techniques, skill sets, and competencies that aid them in their work.  Granted not all companions are the same, it depends on where they were trained and their level of training.

Secret #2: Sober companions are held to very high ethical standards.
Ethics are a very important part of any sober companion’s training.  They must learn all of the requirements and set boundaries, follow rules and regulations, and expectations.  There are ten categories of ethical standards that all companions are held to:
Fraud related conduct
Safety and welfare
Professional standards
Unlawful conduct
Sexual Misconduct
Exploitation of clients
Record Keeping
Cooperation with investigations
Assisting unqualified practice

Secret #3: The practice of sober companions is goal and client driven.
Although the companion can assist with the action plan, the client must set the goal.  The companion never ever sets the goal in the action plan for the client.  Once the client sets the goal the companion will help with the action and specifics with follow up and time tables of when each task must be completed for success.  Action plans lead to success.
Secret #4: If you don’t like working with a certain sober companion, you can choose a different one.
Not all people click!  Sometimes two people just don’t mesh.  If you find that your companion is a dud, or they bore you to death, simply find a different one.  A word to the warning though, if this keeps happening it may be you.  You should be happy with your companion; you will be spending a good deal of time with them.
Secret #5: Sober companions will go to special events with you and help you make it through the event sober.
Sometimes weddings, funerals, and major life events can be gigantic triggers for those in early recovery.  Sober companions will go with you to events and help guide you through all of your triggers and provide you with coping mechanisms to get through sober and safe.  It doesn’t matter if you’re a lead singer playing a gig, or the best man in your cousin’s wedding, a sober companion will dress the part, and be right there with you.
Secret #6: All sober companions are not the same.
Sober companions come from all walks of life, all different backgrounds.  Some companions are in recovery, some are not, some are religious, some are not, some are spiritual, some are funny, some are more highly educated than others, and they have many different perspectives and worldviews.  The most important factor is that you find a sober companion who is highly trained.
Secret #7: You can become a sober Companion, yes you!
Imagine that! You could train to become an excellent sober companion and help change people’s lives for the better.  The Addictions Academy of Miami, Florida trains Companions, recovery coaches, interventionists, and all kinds of recovery professionals.  You can visit their website at or call 800-706-0318 for more information on how to become a sober companion or recovery coach.
There is no secret that these wonderful professionals are helping to change and save lives each and every day.  Aftercare is paramount to long-term recovery and coaching and companions are very important in the big picture.  The need is overwhelming, there are not enough people to help all those in need at present.  Many more coaches and companions will be needed going forward in the war on addiction.  The bottom line is that sober companions make a difference.

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The Addictions Coach: Cali Estes, Ph.D is a Featured “Happening Woman” in Miami

The Addictions Coach:  Cali Estes, Ph.D is a Featured “Happening Woman” in Miami  1.800.706.0318
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Happening Women: Cali Estes
Miami Happening

Miami is full of strong, powerful women, and as part of Women’s History month, we’re spotlighting local ladies who are achieving amazing feats in Miami.

Cali Estes is one of those people.  A seasoned drug addiction specialist, Cali was recently featured in the local news for assisting to repair a church that was burglarized by drug addicts looking to scrap copper wire for a fix.  She also held a non profit gala for the largest organization of drug addicts mothers, The Addict’s Mom, and raised over $250,000 in scholarships for people that need drug and alcohol treatment but cannot afford to go.

Cali Estes is a highly sought after  Celebrity Addiction Therapist, Life Coach, Recovery Coach and Wellness Guru that blends talk therapy with forward and positive change to assist her clients in unlocking their true potential. She has been featured in books, magazines, radio and television for her work in the addictions and therapy fields.  She works with individuals, drug and alcohol treatment teams and addiction professionals looking to advance their knowledge base.  

Read more about this Happening Woman here.

The Addictions Coach: Cali Estes, Ph.D – Addiction Therapist, Life Coach & Wellness Guru


Cali Estes, Ph.D – Addiction Therapist, Life Coach & Wellness Guru


Cali Estes, Ph.D is a highly sought after Celebrity Addiction Therapist, Life Coach, Recovery Coach and Wellness Guru that blends talk therapy with forward and positive change to assist her clients in unlocking their true potential. She has been featured in books, magazines, radio and television for her work in the addictions and therapy fields.  She works with individuals, drug and alcohol treatment teams and addiction professionals looking to advance their knowledge base.

Dr. Estes has over 20 years experience working with drug, alcohol and food addictions.  Her deep understanding of drug and alcohol addiction, including the behaviors and ramifications that are associated with it, place her at the top in the field of addiction therapy.  Dr. Estes is an interactive, solution-focused Positive Psychologist and Cognitive Behavioral Therapist.  Her unique no-nonsense approach of cognitive behavioral therapy, positive psychology and life coaching combine to provide the perfect support for an addict.  Dr. Estes’ background in food addictions and the emotional and physical tolls it takes on one’s psyche and physical well-being is highly unique.

Dr. Estes is currently serving as private practitioner working with a broad spectrum of clients. She has been featured on top tier outs such as NBC Universal News, MSN Money,  Entrepreneur Magazine, Max Sports and Fitness, among others for her work in Addiction Recovery and has been published in several journals and books for her work on ADD and Relationships.

Dr. Estes recently received a Ph.D from Dayspring University in Psychology and Life Coaching, and holds a Master’s degree, International Certification as a Drug and Alcohol Therapist, as well as 24 certifications and over 20 years of experience as a Personal Trainer, Yoga Teacher, Pilates Teacher, Food Addictions Specialist and Life Coach.  Dr. Estes is a graduate of Pennsylvania State University and West Chester University.  Her unique approach to each person and ability to relate on a humanistic level makes her desirable in this industry.  Dr. Estes is more than a ‘sober coach’.  She has a background in clinical and personality psychology, addictions and forensics.

In addition to being a prominent Addiction Therapist and well-known Recovery Coach, Dr. Estes has presented at National Conferences and is currently a National Education Provider offering Accredited classes through her sister company,  She has presented to individuals and drug and alcohol treatment facilities both national and international, and is a sought after Sober Coach and Life Coach to Actors, Musicians, CEO’s, Doctors, Sports Figures and Attorneys that need 100% Confidentiality when dealing with sensitive life issues.

Click here for more information on Dr. Cali Estes.