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Dr. Cali Estes: 5 Deadly Mistakes You Make When a Loved One Has an Addiction

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Dr. Cali Estes: 5 Deadly Mistakes You Make When a Loved One Has an Addiction

1. Sending money and expecting them to pay the rent, electric, food or other bills with the money. An addict in active use will use the cash for drugs or gambling and then call for more money when the eviction notice is slapped on the door. Parents and loved ones panic and try to fix the problem the addict has which results in more money being sent. If you are paying for something, pay it directly. Send a check to the landlord or pay the electric bill directly.  Do not send the addict in active use cash. Send a food card if necessary or take them to the grocery store and buy the food with them.

2. Rescue the Active Addict. The Addict in active use will always be in a state of chaos and call frantic, needing to have an issue handled. Resist the urge to jump in and fix the problem for them. Let them attempt to figure out the issue on their own and struggle.

3. Lack of Self Care.  With focusing on the addict in active addiction, you lose what you need to take care of. Doctors appointments get missed, dinner is not prepared, you find that you are not eating well and sitting up worrying about your loved one. It is imperative that you take care of yourself during this time period. Go to the gym, yoga, for a walk, etc.

4. Allowing your anger to consume you and accusing the addict of ruining your life. They have a ton of shame and guilt around what they are doing and how it is affecting you. They know what is going on. Yelling and screaming and calling them a ‘junkie’ does not help, it magnifies the guilt and causes them to continue to use.

5. Setting consequences and then not following through with them. If you threaten divorce or to throw them out and never do, they have learned to manipulate you and will continue to do so. Whatever you say you will do, make sure you follow through with it.

At The Addictions Coach, we can help you with our family coaching program. Call us at 1.800.706.0318 or click on www.theaddictionscoach.com and reach us today. We have individual and supportive group sessions.

NFL Sober Coach: Pro Football and Addiction

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Pro Football and Addiction

Imagine how tough it is to become a professional football player in the National Football League.  The blood, the sweat, and yes, the tears over many years of constant pain from literally being beaten up every week. Even if you are one of the chosen few who makes the final cut, there are new up and coming talents each year trying to take your job and paycheck away.

Every season numerous players are cut, traded, injured and out of the game and possibly the league, for good!  Some of these strong men turn to drugs and alcohol to kill the pain, both physically and emotionally to deal with things.  While in the NFL, they lived in a fantasy world that only famous athletes, movie stars, and other stars know. When their careers are over, the fall from grace, and the change it brings can be devastating.

Drugs have been part of pro football’s brutal culture for many years. Some players even hoard pills, some trade game tickets with pharmaceutical workers to get large amounts of the drugs they seek.  Even former Super Bowl Champion quarterback of the Green Bay Packers, Brett Farve admitted he was addicted to pain killers at one point.

Players play in pain, it’s the nature of the game and our culture.  There are big contracts, big careers, and there is big money at stake for these players.  If they’re hurt and they don’t play, there is always someone waiting to take their job.  The use of illicit drugs is against the law and NFL policy unless prescribed by a licensed doctor.  These are big men, no doctor in their right mind is going to prescribe enough pain medicine to kill the pain so that these warriors can continue to do battle week after week.

It’s estimated that at least 10% of the league’s more than 1500 players have serious drug problems involving pain killers.  Painkillers can be addictive and have harmful side effects.  The league is cracking down on the misuse of illicit drugs by its players.  The league tests for 10 to 12 substances including pain killers on a random basis year-round.

The NFL has two separate policies for substances that can lead to suspension. One policy concerns the use of banned drugs that are specifically indicated to improve athletic performance (PEDs). The other policy concerns “substances of abuse” and include drugs that may not enhance performance, but are indulged in for recreational purposes. In 2007 Jared Allen of the Kansas City Chiefs was suspended due to 2 DUI arrests.

The ultimate goal is for players to stay on the field and continue to play no matter what.  “When you have a bunch of 300-pound guys smashing into one another, what do people expect?” one offensive lineman said. “People just see Sundays, but we hit each other every day.” Often painkiller use during the season leads to withdrawal symptoms in the off season. It’s a vicious cycle!

Today there is help for players that develop problems, there are professional recovery coaches, case managers, interventionists, mobile rehab, residential treatment, outpatient treatment, and much more.  The players have heathy alternatives to narcotic painkillers through holistic treatments today.  It’s all a matter of healthy choices. We can help those players at The Addictions Coach.  www.theaddictionscoach.com  1.800.706.0318

 

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The Addictions Coach: Why Do We Buy More Than We Need? A look at Compulsive Shopping.

Many addictions are easy to spot because they are addictions to obvious destructive substances or behavior. A shopping addiction can be harder to recognize.

“Even though shopping is legal and, in fact, encouraged in many ways, there’s a lot of shame with admitting that you have a problem with it,” said Terrence Shulman, author of “Bought Out and Spent.” “People are embarrassed that they are shopping themselves into debt or are out of control, or they fear they’ll be judged for being materialistic.”

Shulman, who runs the Shulman Center for Compulsive Theft, Spending and Hoarding in Michigan feels that it’s a growing problem. The center offers help on a national level.

“I think, increasingly, both individually and collectively, something is going on,” he said. “People are becoming more in debt and hoarding more.”

Oscar Sida, instructor and Human Services Program coordinator at UNLV, said that, typically, shopping addictions fall into the category of “process addictions,” any kind of behavior that is pathological but doesn’t have a specific mental illness associated with it. Very often, it is used as a coping mechanism.

“It’s pretty simple,” Sida said. “When we buy things, it makes us feel better.”

Heather Marianna, who was featured in the Oxygen channel reality series “My Shopping Addiction,” used shopping to fill a void when she moved to Las Vegas.

“When I moved here, I didn’t have any friends, and I was just bored,” Marianna said. “I went and shopped at Crystals every day because I didn’t have anything else to do.”

The purchases weren’t destroying her financially, as she had recently received a large inheritance, but she said it was still problematic.

“When we’re looking to determine if the shopping is an addiction, we look for the things that are common with any addiction,” Shulman said. “Is it an ongoing problem? Is it secretive? Is it causing negative consequences? Have there been unsuccessful attempts to stop? If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it might be a duck.”

Psychologists recognize several categories of shopping addicts. There are compulsive shoppers who shop to distract themselves from their feelings and codependent shoppers who shop to gain love and approval. There are also bulimic shoppers who repeat a cycle of buying and returning items. There are trophy shoppers who are seeking the perfect accessory for outfits or some other luxury item. Similarly, there are image shoppers who buy expensive cars, watches or other highly visible items or who will pick up a tab to reinforce their status. On the other end of the scale are bargain shoppers who buy things they don’t need just because they find a good deal.

One doesn’t need to be rich to have a shopping addiction. Sida notes that among the many things that might make a person more vulnerable to addiction are genetics, past trauma and even poverty.

“If you’re poor, you have less access to services,” Sida said. “There’s more psychological stress than normal and for a longer time.”

It’s also possible to have a physical injury trigger a shopping addiction.

“Maybe you were an active person who suddenly has limited mobility,” Sida said. “You might end up shopping too much online because you’re using it to fill the space that used to be used for physical activities.”

Sida said that there is no one-stop treatment for the issue, which may have multiple causes and is very likely to be paired with other issues.

“You should develop an individualized treatment,” Sida said. “That might mean having more than one health professional helping you out.”

For Marianna, the issue has been mostly resolved, although she still does quite a bit of shopping.

“I’ve started a beauty company, Beauty Kitchen,” the Boulder City resident said. “I’m still obsessed with buying, but now it’s for more materials to make more products.”

 

http://www.reviewjournal.com/view/shame-often-shadows-compulsive-shopping-habit

The Addictions Coach: Is Enzyme to Blame for Alcoholism?

The Addictions Coach: Is Enzyme to Blame for Alcoholism? 

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Enzyme malfunction may be why binge drinking can lead to alcoholism, study finds.

Science Daily

Stanford University Medical Center

A malfunctioning enzyme may be a reason that binge drinking increases the odds of alcoholism, according to a study by scientists at the Stanford University School of Medicine.

The scientists identified a previously unsuspected job performed by the enzyme, ALDH1a1, in mice. The discovery could help guide the development of medications that extinguish the urge to consume alcohol, said Jun Ding, PhD, assistant professor of neurosurgery.

Ding is the senior author of the study, which will be published Oct. 2 in Science. The study’s lead author is postdoctoral scholar Jae-Ick Kim, PhD.

Alcoholism is an immense national and international health problem. More than 200 million people globally, including 18 million Americans, suffer from it. Binge drinking substantially increases the likelihood of developing alcoholism. As many as one in four American adults report having engaged in binge drinking in the past month.

Existing medications for treating alcoholism have had mixed results. Disulfiram (Antabuse) and similar substances, for example, work by inducing unpleasant side effects — including shortness of breath, nausea, vomiting and throbbing headaches — if the person taking it consumes alcohol. “But these drugs don’t reduce the craving — you still feel a strong urge to drink,” Ding said.

In the new study, Ding and his associates showed that blocking ALDH1a1 activity caused mice’s consumption of and preference for alcohol to rise to levels equivalent to those observed in mice that had experienced several rounds of the equivalent of binge drinking. Restoring ALDH1a1 levels reversed this effect.

 

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http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/10/151001153047.htm

The Addictions Coach: “Smokin’ in the Boys room”, has become Vaping on the Bus.

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The Addictions Coach: “Smokin’ in the Boys room”, has become Vaping on the Bus.

Smoking in the boys room sounds way cooler than vaping on the bus. Cali Estes’ hometown high school arrests students…..

 Four At Pottsgrove High Arrested In Bus Vaping

Excerpt from Sanatoga Post article:

SANATOGA PA – Four Pottsgrove High School students – all juveniles age 18 or younger – were arrested sometime during September (2015) for allegedly using vapor cigarettes while riding on a school bus, according to a Lower Pottsgrove Police Department monthly report released Monday (Oct. 5).

The bus vaping incident was noted by police department School Resource Officer (SRO) David Slothower as part of last month’s police activity materials distributed to the township Board of Commissioners. The individuals arrested were not identified in any way, but a few details surrounding the arrests were offered by Police Chief Michael Foltz.

Foltz said the four allegedly were engaged in vaping, a practice of inhaling and exhaling vapor produced by an electronic cigarette or similar battery-powered devices. Generally, the devices atomize a liquid that contains small amounts of nicotine and simulate the experience of smoking.

Using these devices on a school bus is a violation of state law, specifically PA Crime Code Section 6306.1 (Use of Tobacco in Schools Prohibited), Foltz explained in an e-mail Tuesday to The Post. The stated prohibition includes the use of “lighted or unlighted cigarettes, cigars, pipes, or other lighted smoking products and smokeless tobacco in any form. Thus, it does cover vapes,” Foltz added.

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The Addictions Coach: Which Detox is Worse? Oxy, Heroin, or Methadone

The Addictions Coach: Which Detox is Worse?  Oxy, Heroin, or Methadone.

Client, ‘John Doe’, is interviewed by Cali Estes of The Addictions Coach.   He shares his experiences with detoxing off of these three drugs, and the one he picks as the worst to detox may surprise you.  We can help you recover from your addiction, or work with you to stay clean and sober if you are in recovery.  Visit us at www.theaddictionscoach.com  or call 1.800.706.0318

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This is a first hand, personal account of an opiate user’s detox from Oxy, then Heroin and then Methadone. The most trying detox of the three may surprise you.

In 2009 John moved to Miami having never touched an opiate in his life, but after living in the pain pill capitol of Florida for over a year his curiosity got the best of him. A coworker turned him on to 15mg Roxy which rapidly turned into a habit. For the first 90 days John didn’t seem to detox when he didn’t have the pills, just a little tired. That’s when the whole game changed. Getting bored with the 15mg Roxies, John raised the bar to 30mg Roxy and within weeks increased to two 30mgs at a time.

Around mid 2010, Miami and all of South Florida really cracked down on local pill mills which led to John’s detox from Roxy. The scientific side of this is Roxy has a shorter half-life than other opiates so it leaves the body quicker so you get sick faster and it is very intense, but it is also over much quicker. With the Roxy, just getting through the first 72 hours is the key. Being a touring musician John left Miami for 5 weeks and seemed to have dodged a major bullet. So you would think.

Within 2 weeks of returning from the road, John started looking for pills again with no luck. That’s when his old dealer turned him on to Heroin which was cheaper and much more available. In John’s mind he had struck gold, a $100 a day roxy habit was now a $40 a day heroin habit. But true to form, that $40 a day heroin habit quickly turned into a $80 a day habit and then right back to $100 a day.

This usage lasted 2 years until personal and financial issues put the brakes on his party. This is where our first detox comparison comes in. John had quit Roxy cold turkey and suffered for 48 hours so he went into this situation with the same mindset. Huge mistake! At about the 24 hour mark from his last heroin dose the detox grabbed him physically and began 7 days of living  Hell. The first 48 hours of this new heroin detox immobilized John. He couldn’t get out of bed while violently throwing up and couldn’t even keep liquid down which contributed to major dehydration. Days 3 and 4 weren’t any better. Still not being able to eat, John had no energy at all. It took every ounce of will just to walk to the kitchen and bathroom. Thinking he was going to die, John suffered through the insomnia and night sweats until Day 6. Keep in mind, this detox has been much longer than the Roxy detox. Day 6 detoxing from Heroin seemed to give John some hope. Still fatigued with zero energy, John’s other physical symptoms had gone. Now it was just dealing with being tired. By Day 9 he was fine. But how soon we forget the bad part of addiction.

After 90 days of no Heroin or opiates, John found himself craving a few bags of Heroin and temptation gave in and within days he was in full blown usage again. Over the past year he knew he had to stop. He tried a few times but all the memories of the prior detox reminded him that help was needed. He could not go through that 7 day period again. After researching his options John decided to give Methadone a try and at first it worked like magic. 24 hours after his last Heroin dose John took his first dose of Methadone. Expecting the worst, John entered Day 1 with tons of anxiety but no sickness occurred. He continued the Methadone daily and there was never any sickness. Just a little lethargy, but no sickness. After 2 weeks on Methadone John felt safe to taper down and stop.

This is where our final detox comparison comes in. Keep in mind that John only used Methadone for 2 weeks. Methadone has a much longer half-life and can last upwards of 36 hours before it even begins to leave the body. This can give a false sense of security when stopping. You will detox from Methadone and it could take 3 days before you began to feel sick. This is exactly what happened to John. Day 1 and 2 after stopping Methadone showed no signs of detox. But Day 3 was a different story. Complete fatigue set in and John began to fear the worst. Day 4 and 5 was another 48 hour window of complete fatigue. By Day 6 the stomach issues were back in full force along with the night sweats. Day 7 welcomed back the insomnia and for the next week John suffered through no energy, night sweats and insomnia for a total of a 2 week detox off Methadone. Twice the time of detox off Heroin and 3 times the detox off Roxy.

Methadone is a publicly supported maintenance program to detox from other opiates. This account is from an actual opiate user and the above story is his account of each detox. There are alternative methods surfacing to detox from opiates and you can find more information about these methods at www.theaddictionscoach.com

Another Overdose in Florida. Was the rehab at fault or the individual? What are your thoughts?

Another Overdose in Florida.  Was the rehab at fault or the individual? What are your Thoughts?
You want the best for your loved ones.  We do too.  The Addictions Coach is here for you.  www.theaddictionscoach.com  1.800.706.0318
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Pee Scams, Kickbacks, And Overdoses Plague South Florida Rehabs

Cat Ferguson

Nicole Cronin was one of the hundreds of people who overdose in Palm Beach County every year. She came to South Florida for help, but instead found a rehab system with weak scientific backing that’s riddled with fraud.

When Nicole Cronin’s parents sent their daughter from suburban New Jersey off to a Florida rehab to treat her opiate addiction, they hoped it would help free her from the relapses they’d watched her cycle through at home.

 Full article below:

The Addictions Coach: 7 Steps to Survive the First 7 Days of Heroin Withdrawal

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The Addictions Coach: Recovery Services for the Elite in Society

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Recovery Services for the Elite in Society

The Addictions Academy and Addictions Coach of Miami, Florida know how important your reputation and your company’s brand are.  They also know how important it is for you to be at the helm, making sure things are running smoothly; business as usual.  When an Alpha like you has trouble with an addiction, there’s only one place that understands and can help!

Why is The Addictions Academy and The Addictions Coach the best solution?

1. We will protect your anonymity and confidentiality
2. We will come to you with the only mobile rehab in the country
3. We deal with celebrities, famous athletes, and Fortune 500 clients and know what is expected
4. Our Professional Recovery Coaches are the best in the world
5. Our coaches are willing to go with you wherever needed, on set, on tour, your call
6. You don’t need to leave the helm of your business for 30 days or more
7. You set the goals and objectives that you want to achieve
8. Our approach is totally client-driven
9. We understand that special clients have special needs
10. We have over 100 years of experience on board with our company

We know that you have deadlines to meet, quotas to fill, Boards who want answers, and clients who want results.  We understand A-list clients because we specialize in working with them.  Our coaches blend right in, when in the board room, on the golf course, in the clubhouse, on stage, or at the office.  They can escort you to major events, stay with you for periods of time, as needed, send our mobile rehab, or schedule sessions as requested.

Our clients have been professional athletes, A-listers, Rockers, and high-profile business CEOs and Owners who cannot afford to leave their teams, shows, bands, or companies for long periods of time.  Our Professional Recovery Coaches and Mobile Rehab were quick to respond and help our new clients to get back on their feet and back to their passions as soon as possible.

Addiction isn’t about using drugs. It’s about what the drug does to your life.”
― Enock Maregesi

Our highly skilled coaches will work with our clients to reach solutions.  The bottom line is, we get results!  We know that you are busy, you are under a great deal of pressure, and time is of the essence. Our coaches will create an action plan with you that works best for you and your schedule.  Like you, we’re not like all the rest; we are simply the best of the best!

If you have an addiction problem, let our recovery coaches help you get back on track.  Call us today at 1 (800) 706-0318 or visit our website at https://theaddictionscoach.com.  We look forward to working with you.

Cali Estes Ph.D

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