Have you ever tried to describe anxiety to someone who doesn’t suffer from it?



Have you ever tried to describe anxiety to someone who doesn’t suffer from it? I’ll bet there are times in that discussion where the person you are talking to is looking at you like you have three heads. Sometimes it seems next to impossible for someone who doesn’t suffer from anxiety to try to understand it. This is the very reason why people who let their anxiety trigger them into active drug addiction are so hard to diagnose and treat. And then on the flip side, the drug addict themselves, who let anxiety fuel their addiction, seem to stumble through relapse after relapse before their sober coaches are able to help them. Here is how a person suffering from anxiety feels throughout the day.

The day could start with simple anxiety-fueled issues, such as the clothes that they picked to wear just aren’t good enough. Maybe their hair doesn’t look good enough to go to school or work. Then it can gravitate to more extreme anxiety such as having to get up in front of a class and give a speech. Or lead a seminar to live in an auditorium of 500 people. The person or drug addict suffering from anxiety may think that they aren’t good enough to lead a seminar of 500 people or give a speech in college in front of a full classroom. Those are primary examples of minor anxieties.
Now let’s move on to some of the bigger anxiety-filled issues in life. A person suffering from anxiety may never have children because they don’t think they would be a good parent. A person suffering from anxiety may never get married or be involved in a meaningful relationship because the thought of not measuring up brings them full-fledged anxiety. And then there are those that don’t ever go after their goals and dreams in life because the thought of failure brings on full-fledged anxiety. All of these examples of anxiety filled life issues become a hidden trigger for the person suffering from anxiety to use drugs and alcohol to mask the anxiety or to try to medicate themselves from the feelings that anxiety gives them.
So as you can see, it would be really tough for a sober coach to pinpoint the cause of a person using drugs and alcohol if anxiety is the hidden reason. We here at The Addictions Coach specialize in treating addiction that is fueled by anxiety. Our nationally certified recovery coaches and sober coaches are the addiction industry’s best and highly skilled professionals that are here to help you 24 hours a day seven days a week with your addiction and recovery-related issues. You can call us anytime at 1-800-706-0318 or visit The Addictions Coach. Don’t hesitate any longer. Pick up the phone and call us today!

The Addictions Coach: Sober Companion Program


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When Dr. Cali Estes created The Addictions Coach brand, she had an idea.  She wanted to offer help and hope to those that needed something “different” than the standard twelve-step meetings. While the twelve-step meetings work for some, there is an increasing number of addicts that need something different. They need a program that thinks “outside the box” and a program that is built specifically for them to some extent. As Dr. Estes was in the building and creating phase for her new company she decided that if she brought the drug and alcohol treatment concept to the client and was able to integrate their recovery into their everyday life instead of asking the recovering addict to drop everything and put their entire life on hold, a life that is already on the verge of imploding, she might have a much better shot at injecting confidence and hope into the daily struggle that the addict is going through.

So, she created Sober on Demand, an alternative to drug and alcohol treatment, and added the sober companion concept right into the addiction treatment process. Since she already had the top sober companions working at The Addictions Coach, it was an easy transition and smooth concept. Dr. Cali Estes created the Sober Companion program where she sends a Nationally Certified Sober Coach and Nationally Certified Sober Companion (bonded and insured), who is handpicked to match up with the struggling addict and his or her strengths and weaknesses. The sober companion goes right to the client’s home, job, hotel, tour bus, or anywhere in life that the addict needs help and guidance to keep them from using drugs and alcohol in a destructive manner.
The Sober Companion program is built to send the certified sober coach and certified sober companion with the client to his or her job when needed and complete any travel that the client requires. The Sober Companion can be sent to company functions when needed, on vacations when needed, or any other function or life event where the threat of relapse is high. Having a Sober Companion with the client at all times gives the client the confidence to relax and focus on getting better emotionally, spiritually, and physically. The Addiction’s Coach brand and now, Sober on Demand have shown incredible success rates with their clients and the Sober Companion program. I strongly suggest that if you are struggling with addiction to the point where you need a Sober Companion in your life to help you stay clean and sober while you focus on rebuilding your life then call Dr. Cali Estes and The Addictions Coach at 1-800-706-0318 or visit the website at http://www.theaddictionscoach.com to get all the information you need on hiring a professional Sober Companion today!   Also check out www.soberondemand.com

Reasons Why You Should Hire a Sober Companion


So in yesterday’s post, we basically talked about what a sober companion was and what they actually did to help a struggling drug addict get clean and sober and stay clean and sober. So today we are going to talk about the reasons why we should hire a sober companion. We all get to a point in our recovery where we feel completely confident in our day to day tasks at hand. We may begin to get overly confident and lose sight of the danger lurking ahead in our everyday life. We may miss triggers and signs that are warning us not to go any further down a road littered with relapse after relapse.
On the opposite side of the spectrum, maybe you aren’t confident at all in your recovery. Maybe you know you need someone right beside you on a day by day, hour by hour, and minute by minute basis to keep you on the right track. Well, when you hire a Sober Companion from Dr. Cali Estes and The Addictions Coach will give that security and confidence in “real-time” that you desperately need to function positively while battling addiction. A Sober Companion is a nationally certified recovery coach, or sober coach, who is hired by you to help you with everyday issues and tasks and also keep you headed down a path of sobriety. Think about it like this, just because YOU decided not to drink or get high doesn’t mean that the rest of the world has done so as well. Our hired Sober Companion is like our headlights on an extremely foggy day. Or our Sober Companion is like a lighthouse and we are a ship lost at sea. So you get the idea. I could go on and on with the positive analogies but our Sober Companion is hired by us or our loved ones and put in place to help us succeed on a daily basis and stay clean and sober. So if you or a loved one is struggling with drugs or any other addiction and need someone to walk through life with them to keep them on a steady course to sobriety then visit us at www.soberondemand.com at 800 706 0318 ext 2

Stay Clean and Sober: Hire a Sober Companion


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There are many different ways to get clean and sober and stay clean and sober these days and hiring a sober companion through The Addictions Coach is one of the best ways available to a recovering drug addict. The narrow minded “one size fits all” mentality in addiction recovery is quickly dying and addicts that want recovery are learning that there is more to addiction recovery than sitting in a circle around a coffee machine smoking cigarettes and eating donuts. Recovering addicts are reaching out to hire Sober Companions at an all time high rate and let’s take a moment to figure out why. First of all, a Sober Companion is exactly what it says it is. It’s a companion that walks through every day life with you to help guide you to sobriety and keep you there. A sober companion is someone who can go to a company function where alcohol might be available to help you steer clear of any drinking that you might be thinking of partaking in. A sober companion is also someone that you may hire to take on a family reunion cruise where alcohol would definitely be at the forefront of daily activities. And I speak from experience on this one because I was hired as a sober companion to travel through the Caribbean with a man to make sure that he didn’t drink during his family reunion cruise. I, as the sober companion, kept my clients occupied with healthy activities such as sightseeing, working out in the gym on the boat, swimming, and spending time with his four-year-old son who loved spending time with his father, sober. So if you are suffering with an active addiction and could use a sober companion to help you through a single event or maybe you need a sober companion 24/7 to get you through “life” for a while, consider our signature Sober on Demand services.  Call Dr. Cali Estes at 1-800-706-0318 or visit our website at Top Recovery Coaches and Life Coaching for Drug and Alcohol Addiction to get all the information on hiring a sober companion today!

Dr. Cali Estes featured in UPJOURNEY: How To Stop Being a Manchild


Most of us have come in contact with the “manchild.  Maybe we are raising one, maybe married to one, or maybe we are one.

Failure to Launch Syndrome is a real issue and we can help! Read on to learn more from the excerpt from UpJourney’s article.


How To Stop Being a Manchild

Some people avoid the responsibility of becoming a grown-up man and consequently remain a man-child.

These people seem to refuse to grow up. You might even know them personally—it could be a friend, a co-worker, or even yourself.

Here’s how to stop being a “man-child,” according to experts.

You heard of the SheShed and the ManCave, but have you dealt with the ManChild? The Manchild is a full groan, real adult (but only by age) that still has full tantrums like a 5-year-old. They generally don’t have a job, need a lot of material things to feel good about themselves, and find bathroom humor funny. Generally, they never really had to have a responsibility and expect others to do for them as their parents have consistently done.

My husband’s baby brother is a Manchild at 45 years old. His mother pays his mortgage, gave him her car, pays his credit card, and even gives money right out of her account so he can go to dinner and get drinks. His wife has never worked and they think this lifestyle is perfectly OK, as the mother allows it. When they come for holiday, he will lift his shirt up and yell “get in my belly” and act like different characters on comedy shows. Everyone laughs. He spends more time making funny memes and videos than actually looking for a job.

Shut off the monetary means

Well, you are going to have to parent. If the funding source (wife, mother or partner) does not stop allowing the behavior it will simply never end. You will need to get your diapers ready because it will be years of this behavior.

If the monetary means are shut off, the manchild will have a full meltdown like a 5-year-old in Target when they are told they can not have the Bighwheel and fling themselves on the floor in full tantrum display. Be prepared. it has to be done because they will not man-up on their own.

Boundaries must be set and expectations must be discussed along with holding them accountable

The reason my husband’s brother is still allowed at 45 years old to have mommy pay ALL his bills (and his wife’s too) is that she refuses to set a boundary. If she set a boundary and only gave him a small amount, he would be forced to adult. Find work, pay his mortgage, and his own grocery bills.

Accountability must be followed through. When the tantrum starts, simply say ‘I love you, but this is no longer tolerated” and hang up or walk away. It will take time but the manchild will learn that the behavior is no longer an option. If their bank account is in the negative stop bailing them out. That goes with accountability.

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