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The Addictions Coach Welcomes Peter DiStefano to the Staff!
Peter DiStefano, Musician and guitar rock guru best known for his work as a founding member of Porno for Pyros. Peter has 20 years sober from heroin and other assorted drugs and loves his sober life. Peter believes in honesty and branching off his career to include helping his fellow musicians get sober and live an honest life.
With so many years as an amazing sober musician, Peter has decided that his next passion in life is giving back by helping others. Peter has completed his courses with The Addictions Academy, and is working on his IMAC. International Master Addictions Coach. Read more about Peter here.
Celebrities and high-profile individuals give up what many of us hold dear, our privacy. Being in the limelight 24/7 gives the world full view of all the good and bad situations they may find themselves.
When a celebrity or high-profile person, a pro-sport athlete, actor, musician, or even a CEO for example, is in need of addiction treatment, it’s also well publicized and may even be scandalized.
Check out the unique treatment alternative of Sober on Demand with Dr. Cali Estes and her elite team at The Addictions Coach.
What is a Sober on Demand™ Service at The Addictions Coach?
Imagine taking one of the nation’s few truly acclaimed addiction treatment centers, pulling out the pieces that work, and literally condensing their 28-day residential and drug rehab program into an express, private and on-demand 3 to 10-day plus private wrap-around unique experience in real time in the comfort of your own environment. Whether a globally traveled executive, someone in the limelight requiring added discretion and oversight, or maybe even the college kid on the brink of all-out addiction but without any time or freedom to spare, this is a truly encapsulating and highly effective and unique approach to the current addiction treatment!
Our unique one on one custom approach is what we are highly sought out and known for. Dr. Cali Estes oversees all aspects of the Action Plan protocols and will make sure your experience is comfortable, enlightening and productive in the time you spend with her and her team. The program can be from 3 to 10 days plus, and Dr. Cali Estes and her team are prepared to provide 30 days to 6 months of a mobile lifestyle enrichment program that covers substance use and substance misuse, triggers, coping skills, passion and purpose in life, relationship goals, career goals and learning how to live a happy and productive life. This concept is proprietary and completely tailored to your unique and individual needs. 100% private, 100% Confidential. We get results and have an A list of satisfied clients.
Read on from an excerpt from CBS News article:
Aaron Carter slams brother Nick, explains DUI arrest
Carter, 29, and his girlfriend were arrested on Saturday. He was released on bail Sunday. The Habersham County Sheriff’s Office charged Carter with drunken driving and possession of marijuana and paraphernalia.
Carter explained in a statement that he believes his “celebrity was targeted” and that he was not driving during the arrest. He also added that he has a medical license for marijuana for “long-standing anxiety.” He added that “the truth will come out.”
Professionals to the Rescue
-Dr. Cali Estes, Founder of the Addictions Coach
When parents find out that their teenager or adult child has an addiction problem, they experience feelings of fear, anger, frustration, panic, and pain that only parents know. They search for answers to help their child, to save their child from an addict’s life and death. Parents look for answers and solutions every place that they can; the internet is a common place. The problem is that there is lots of misinformation about addiction and recovery on the internet.
Parents Need Professionals
Parents need a professional that they can trust who has real answers and solutions. A professional interventionist can help the family to get real answers to help their child get the proper level of treatment that they need if the child is fighting getting help. If the child is willing to get help, a professional recovery coach can assist the family to develop the required coping skills to help their loved one navigate the long road to recovery.
Professional recovery coaches and interventionists are highly trained and skilled individuals who have gone through a rigorous certification program. They have core competencies, tools and skills, and the knowledge to help educate parents on how to help their loved ones. Once parents realize that they are in the hands of professionals, they start to trust and relax.
“The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children.” – Edward VIII
Education, awareness, and prevention are the keys to success in the fight against addiction. Interventionists will meet with the family at the pre-intervention to educate the family on what they need to do to prepare for a successful intervention with their loved one the next day. The interventionist will instruct the family on how to construct the “love letters” for their family member suffering from addiction, and what to do and what not to do the day of the intervention. The interventionist will carefully evaluate the family unit to see if there are enablers, other substance abusers, other co-dependents, and other situations within the family unit. The interventionist will control the tempo and mood of the intervention, keeping the enabler away from the substance abuser.
The recovery coach will either work with the substance abuser in the family, or collaborate with the family to help educate, help them to achieve goals, develop action plans, work on awareness, activities that will assist, help the clients to change perspectives, and celebrate the victories along the way. Recovery coaches can be key to long-term aftercare and long-term recovery’s success.
The family can hire both a family recovery coach and a recovery coach to work with the addicted family member. Families have had great success working with interventionists and recovery coaches. Research and statistics have shown that these professionals have a positive influence on long-term recovery.
One of the biggest problems that parents have in dealing with addiction is enabling. The family must learn to support recovery without enabling addictive behaviors and actions. Sometimes, because the family has been living so close to the problem for such a long time, that they can’t see the forest through the trees. The professionals can help guide the family and show them the honest truth and how to handle the situation successfully.
There are also case workers that will work with the family and the substance abuser after treatment. They can aid in managing appointments and networking to help with the recovery process. They will have a network of professionals that they can tap into to help succeed.
The parents need to have realistic expectations of what will happen post treatment with their loved one and an understanding of the entire process. These professionals will help the family to understand the big picture and to have “right-sized” expectations as their loved one moves through the process.
The good news is that no one has to die from the disease of addiction and that there are excellent highly trained professionals available to help families to help their loved ones to navigate the process of recovery. Fewer mistakes mean that there is less of a chance for the disease to take a family member’s life. If you’re a parent who needs help because of addiction, please make the call for help today!
Contact the elite team at The Addictions Coach at 1.800.706.0318
When I first got sober, I lost most of my friends.
It wasn’t because they abandoned me or because I was that much of an asshole when I was drinking either. It was because I needed to distance myself from people, places and things that could serve as potential triggers.
I remember when I was about three weeks sober, I had to attend the funeral of an ex-girlfriend’s dad. I sucked it up, did the obligatory condolence, apology thing and went on my merry way.
But it was extremely hard. I don’t think I made eye contact, I wasn’t listening to anything that was said, and I was irritable.
I couldn’t get out of there fast enough.
After breathing in the fresh air in the parking lot I ran into a kid I had gone to high school with. I had actually knocked his teeth out in a drunken fight after a few of his friends had assaulted one of my friends. Long story short, I was sued, had to go to court, won the court case and continued to drink for the next twenty years.
So I run into this guy outside the funeral home and the first thing I say to him is “I’m sober now. I’ve been sober for three weeks.”
He smiled, shook my hand, and said, “Welcome to the club. Come on in. The water’s wonderful.”
And just like that my irritability and anxiety were gone.
We chatted for a few minutes and although I didn’t get too personal or too deep, it felt really good to be able to talk to someone who simply understood where I was coming from.
As I drove away, I got a text from another high school friend, telling me they were at the bar around the corner and that I should swing by.
I almost did.
But for some reason I didn’t. It may have been because of the short conversation I had in the parking lot or it may have been because I inherently knew it wasn’t the right thing to do, but either way, it didn’t matter.
What mattered was that I didn’t go.
Would I have drunk if I went? Maybe.
But I didn’t go, so it wasn’t an option.
Things progressed slowly in the beginning of my recovery and I felt lost more often than not. I went to an insane amount of 12-step meetings and it helped. It was comforting to be able to identify with other alcoholics, even if I just sat there and didn’t say anything. Just listening to their stories was enough to let me know I wasn’t alone.
But because I wasn’t yet comfortable in social situations (and certainly not comfortable in a bar or night club), I said No to every invite given by my old friends for the first two years of my sobriety.
“Want to come to our 4th of July cookout?” No thanks.
“We’re having people over after Christmas dinner, just like always. We’d love it if you could swing by.” No thank you.
“Pearl Jam is in town and we have extra tickets. Want one?” No. Thanks anyway.
I didn’t feel bad for declining these social engagements nor did I feel sorry for myself that I couldn’t participate. I knew I was doing the right thing.
I slowly started to develop friendships in sobriety and although sometimes it was just a simple phone call or a cup of coffee with a fellow addict, it was enough.
The more work I did on myself, the more comfortable I became in my own skin. When I was drinking I couldn’t do a damn thing without being drunk. Nothing.
But as I gained confidence and started liking myself again, I eased back into society, so to speak. I started going to family gatherings. I could sit at a restaurant and not obsess about drinking. Eventually, I was even able to dine by myself, and sit at the bar to boot.
For reasons unknown to me (I stopped analyzing things a long time ago), the obsession to drink was lifted. I don’t know when it happened, why it happened, where I was, or what I was doing, but one day it simply vanished.
Ironically, because it had taken me so long (in my mind anyway) to be able to be social, my friends had stopped inviting me to things. That hurt a little.
I’d see these amazing parties via social media, with all of my high school friends there, or I’d here about a wedding, after the fact, and it stung that I wasn’t invited. But I wouldn’t stay on my pity pot for long.
My recovery taught me that I had done the right things at the right times for me, and my payoff was living a life of sobriety.
So I didn’t get invited to a couple of cool parties. So what?
So people who didn’t understand alcoholism looked at me as a kind of leaper sometimes. Big deal.
But here’s the funny thing; after my seventh year of sobriety, people started reaching out again. Lucky #7 maybe? Who knows? But this time I started accepting.
I started going to parties and social gatherings. I started being an active member of society, and doing so with a smile on my face. And this time it was genuine, thanks to sobriety.
A few weeks ago, I met up with my high school friends for a U2 concert and ended up running into a kid I had only seen once in twenty-five years.
The last time I saw him was at a 12-step meeting. I was delighted and surprised. I walked right towards him, expecting a handshake and a “Hey, how the hell are you?”
Instead, he looked down, turned in the other direction, and shuffled away.
He wasn’t ready to admit he had a problem with alcohol. Or maybe he was ashamed or embarrassed. God knows that’s exactly how I felt when I first got sober.
So I accepted it.
He was on his journey and I was on mine.
I prayed for him that night, and didn’t think about him again, that is, until I saw him at the U2 show.
He walked to me, embraced me in a huge bear hug, and whispered in my ear, “Great to see you. I read your book and it was fucking awesome.”
I didn’t say a word.
I didn’t know what to say.
But I knew, deep down, that he was sober.
He had found his path.
Maybe it was because he had attended that 12-step meeting years ago or maybe it was for another reason only known to him, but, in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter.
What matters is that he’s sober today.
And so am I.
The Addictions Academy Staff Writer, and Director of Happiness
National Academy of Sports Medicine Certified Personal Trainer
Published Author of “And Drink I Did”
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Nelsan Ellis: Another Life Lost to Addiction
Another young life lost to the struggles with addiction. In the excerpt below, Ellis’ father describes his son’s shame regarding his addictions, and his reluctance to talk about his situation. We need to reduce the shame and stigmas attached to addiction and let those suffering know that there is help!
Dr. Cali Estes is the premier addictions coach to celebrities and high-profile clients. She brings treatment to you with Sober on Demand mobile rehab. You stay in your life and your life stays on track! Her elite team can meet you on the field, stage, studio, or boardroom. Learn more and reach out at 1.800.706.0318
Nelsan Ellis’ Family Shares Circumstances of ‘True Blood’ Actor’s Death
Nelsan Ellis, the actor who starred on HBO’s True Blood as the fan-favorite Lafayette Reynolds, struggled with drug and alcohol abuse for years. That battle ultimately cost the 39-year-old his life.
Days after his death, Ellis’ family spoke to The Hollywood Reporter about the exact circumstances around the beloved actor’s passing. Ellis died Saturday of heart failure. His death was met with a massive outpouring from friends and fans around the world, who were shocked and heartbroken over the news.
In an effort to help others who may be struggling with the same addictions that afflicted Ellis, his family released the following statement to THR:
Nelsan’s father, has bravely agreed for me to share the circumstances of Nelsan’s heart failure. Nelsan has suffered with drug and alcohol abuse for years. After many stints in rehab, Nelsan attempted to withdraw from alcohol on his own. According to his father, during his withdrawal from alcohol he had a blood infection, his kidneys shut down, his liver was swollen, his blood pressure plummeted, and his dear sweet heart raced out of control.
On the morning of Saturday July 8th, after four days in Woodhull Hospital, Nelsan was pronounced dead. Nelsan was a gentle, generous and kind soul. He was a father, a son, a grandson, a brother, a nephew, and a great friend to those that were lucky enough to know him. Nelsan was ashamed of his addiction and thus was reluctant to talk about it during his life. His family, however, believes that in death he would want his life to serve as a cautionary tale in an attempt to help others.
Ivan Moody makes a heartfelt statement about addressing the addiction affecting his life and announces that he is in a treatment facility. Dr. Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach has worked with countless celebrity and high-profile clients to break free from addiction.
Dr. Estes can bring treatment to you, with Sober on Demand, whether that’s on the stage, court, field, boardroom or even operating room. Learn more and contact the elite team at 1.800.706.0318
FIVE FINGER DEATH PUNCH’s Ivan Moody Releases Emotional Statement: “I Am In A Treatment Facility”
excerpt from article written by Brian Storm Rock Feed
“To All Five Finger Death Punch Fans:
“I wanted to write to all of you and express my deep
regret for not being able to finish the last few shows on our European summer tour.
“I am in a treatment facility addressing the addiction
issues that have interfered with everything in my life.
“I love you guys and I love my band… It’s what I
do and I can’t imagine my life without it. I am 100% committed to getting healthy so I can get back on stage with Five Finger Death Punch.
“At this point, I AM ON TRACK TO RETURN TO THE BAND
WITH A VENGEANCE in Springfield, IL, when we begin the next leg of our North American tour dates. It’s my intention to sing at each and every future
show we are committed to, in North America and in Europe. I can’t wait to put all of this behind me and move forward.
“I’d like to thank Tommy Vext for doing such a great
job filling in for me while I was away. I’d like to thank my brothers in 5FDP for supporting me through these hard times. We’ve been through hell and back and we’re not gonna stop here. I would also like to thank my family & friends for standing behind me
while I take care of what I need to regarding my health. But most importantly, I’d like to thank you, the fans, for your unwavering support as I recover. This has not been an easy year for me, but your encouragement and positivity is what keeps me going.
“See all you Knuckleheads on August 19th!!
4 Tips for Meditation that are Interesting and Unique for the Busy Professional
1. I call this, In line meditation. While you’re waiting on your triple mocha frappe at Starbucks, try standing on both feet, grinding your heels into the ground and focusing on lifting your head as high as you can. Instead of drowning out the sounds and noises of people talking and the busyness of the place, focus on the noise and breathe into not out of it. If you can get lost in the hustle and bustle of the day, you can learn to meditate anywhere, including Times Square. Practice this by going to busy places and focus on the sound as a way to calm yourself, similar to using the ocean. Remember to breathe into the chaos not out of. If you can master this, you can meditate anywhere, including a Chuck E Cheese during a birthday party.
2. The red light game. While waiting at a red light, focus on your breath and the color of the light. Take deep long breaths and instead of impatiently waiting on the light to change, focus on breathing out the negative energy and breathing in 3 seconds at a time. If you did this at every red light, by the time you got to your location you would be calm, cool and collected. Just try not to fall asleep at the wheel.
3. 5 minutes of quiet. If you only get a short lunch break, set your alarm on your phone for five minutes. Find a quiet location, you may have to sit in your car. Focus on breathing in and out and relaxing. Let all your thoughts flow freely for that 5 minutes. If done correctly you will feel like you slept for 30 minutes or more.
4. Moving meditation. If you’re agitated a moving meditation is even better. A moving meditation consists of allowing the meditation to flow while you’re in motion. So for example, running up and down the steps or walking quickly while breathing out the negativity or even talking to yourself while doing it will release the stress and anger that you’re feeling. You can even do squats while doing dishes and breathe in on the way up and exhale on the way down. You can use any moving meditation with breath work to release stress, anxiety, anger and frustration.
Self care is vital for every individual, and meditation is a great way to care for yourself.
If you are struggling with addiction, or feeling stuck in life, the team at The Addictions Coach can help you! Reach out at 1.800.706.0318
Prideful, Feisty, and YOUNG, a Millennial’s Perspective on her Generation
From the young to the old, every single person has a personality that differs from another. Some however will argue that the the young men and women in the world are rather “wild” or “disrespectful.” Why exactly do the young people of the world get described as this? It comes as to no surprise that in today’s society and all the issues circulating the news and social media that the young take the headlines to a whole new meaning. Most teenagers, 20 year olds and even older men and women will be the first to play hooky from school or work and head to nearest protest, the nearest presidential campaign, or the newest march in major cities. Why exactly do these people do it? That’s pretty simple actually and can be described in just one word, millennial.
The millennials of America, Europe, Canada, and even Australia all suffer from what many people will describe as disrespect, lack of originality, and of course pure laziness. Is that really what it is though? Of course not, millennials are opinionated, full of pride, and full of belief. Anyone can see how a great grandchild will differ in personality from their great grandparents. It is not necessarily because of how they were raised, but because of the time in which they grew up. Social media has grown so much even within the past couple of years. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and more have greatly influenced many subjects. Millennials were raised with technology, they grew up with television, cell phones, tablets, and more. Who is to blame for that? Their parents, their friends, their family are not the cause of that issue, no one is really, it’s just the way of the world.
Growing up in a world full of love, hate, and hundreds of other emotions, it could be hard to find a place where you love everywhere you go. That’s what so many millennials fight for, stand up for, because they believe in a better place. Young adults and teenagers are very much involved in self-love. They have no issue standing up for what they believe in, what they want out of life, where they want to go in life and how they are going to get there. There is no rule book that says you absolutely have to move out of your parents house by the age of 20, that you have to follow in your parents or other relatives footsteps, or that you have to go to college.
Morals, ethics, and the path you decide to take can all differ from everyone else. No one has to agree with everything millennials decide to do, and millennials don’t have to agree with the older generations.
No matter how young or how old you are:
Be respectful. Whether it’s a social issue, personal issue, school issue, etc. having respect for everyone involved (yes, that even means self-respect) will make it less confrontational, stressful, and emotional. Will having respect completely make it look like rainbows and butterflies? No, but it will make it easier. It will show that you’re not just there to simply stand your ground.
What’s that M word again? Oh, right MATURITY. Maturity does not automatically come with age, but neither can you blame your immaturity level on your lack of years. There is always a time and a place to be a little crazy or silly at times, but never lose track of who you are as a person. When involved in any situation, whether it be a face to face situation, phone call, or behind some type of cell phone or tablet screen, never lower yourself as a person to try and come out on top. In other words, degrading others because they are not the same person as you and don’t like the same things as you lowers your maturity AND respect level A LOT!
BE yourself, LOVE yourself. I could list so many things that make you different from the girl in your 10th grade English class or the guy you competed against for an internship, or even the lady who cut you off in the Starbucks drive-thru. None of you are the same and that Is amazing! No one wants the world to be the exact same every day, that’s honestly super boring. Knowing your differences, the good and the bad, just embrace them. How you look, the way you dress, what you eat and what music you listen to, should never really define if someone likes you or not. Will everyone in the world love you? No, but that’s okay. It’s just the way the world is. Never degrade yourself for the way things are in the world.
So why exactly do millennials differ so much and are so misunderstood? Because we are the newest generation in this crazy and diverse world. As time goes on, who knows which way it’s going to go. Should that make you scared to be who you are? No. It shouldn’t make you scared to stand up and scream about what you believe in. Millennials may dress different, act different, talk different, and handle life differently, but we will all still bleed the same color and have the same squishy organs inside of us. Never forget that.
Even though everyone in life may seem to have it all together and have a smooth life, there are moments where some might need help on how to maintain that good feeling or even acquire that good feeling. No worries, there are people who can and WILL help you and the best thing, they will not degrade you or judge you.
We call it Failure-to-Launch Syndrome, and it is a surprisingly common condition especially among the Millennial Population. They seem lost, not quite sure of whom they are or what they want to do in life. They lack direction, ambition and purpose. If you are their parent, you are probably stressed and feel helpless in how to help them. Dr. Cali Estes specializes in this behavior.
Dr. Cali Estes gets to the root cause of the ambivalence and the ‘stuck points’ to assist her clients in moving forward with their lives in a productive, happy and excited manner. It is not just about the ability to create a life for themselves, but the ability to create a life that has meaning, joy and fulfillment.
Reach Dr. Cali Estes, The Addiction Coach at (800) 706 0318 or visit www.caliestes.com to learn more.
A little bit about me!
I was born and raised in Pennsylvania. Last year I made the move to Georgia to follow my dreams. I’m currently a full time college student studying in special education and focusing on pre-med at Georgia Southern University. After earning my undergraduate degree at GSU, I plan on attending medical school to earn my medical degree, which will then lead me to a surgical residency program. I’m a very stubborn young woman and if I set my mind to something I will accomplish it. You won’t really find me too far away from my phone as I love to stay in touch with close friends and family. Of course, also not too far away from me are headphones. I love a great challenge and spontaneous adventures and probably will never say no to a good time to create amazing memories.
Seasonal Affective Disorder and How SAD Can Affect You.
As I’m writing this blog, I’m currently in Huntington Beach, CA. I love California, but there’s one thing that I am having a hard time adapting to. Every morning is overcast, foggy, and downright dreary till at least noon. I noticed my moods in the morning since I’ve been here, have been lethargic, unmotivated, anxious, and almost depressed. I started to wonder why this was, so I did some research, and what I found is that these are some of the symptoms of S.A.D, or Seasonal Affective Disorder.
According to an article I read on the Mayo Clinic website, “Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, is a type of depression that occurs during the same season each year. You may have SAD if you felt depressed during the last two winters but felt much better in spring and summer. Some people may have SAD during the summer months. Experts aren’t sure what causes SAD. But they think it may be caused by a lack of sunlight.”
Now I come from Florida where its sunny 99.9% of the time, so I found the lack of sunlight theory interesting, so I looked into what lack of sunlight can really do to someone.
So we all know too much sun can give you skin cancer, but a lack of sunshine, which provides Vitamin D, can also increase your risk of certain cancers. Vitamin D deficiencies can lead to the development of prostate and breast cancer, memory loss, and an increased risk for developing dementia and schizophrenia. Research also shows that Vitamin D deficiencies in men caused by insufficient sunlight make them twice as likely to develop heart disease.
Now along with Vitamin D, the sun also supplies us with Nitric Oxide, or NO. NO is ESSENTIAL to the human body as a tool for regulating important bodily processes, such as metabolism. Proper exposure to NO from the sun will help keep your metabolism running smoothly and discourage overeating. And we all know how we feel after over eating. Tired and lethargic. Not to mention that overeating can also lead to other problems such as obesity and heart problems.
Lack of sunlight can also lead to depression. The less sunlight we see, the more likely we are to develop Seasonal Affective Disorder. Some of the symptoms of this disorder are mood swings, anxiety, sleep problems, or even suicidal thoughts, and these symptoms can become extreme the more you go without sunlight.
I have to admit, this next thing I am guilty of… I do this every night, as I think most of us do. Right after I crawl into bed, I have to check my Facebook newsfeed. Turns out, lying in bed at night scrolling through our Facebook newsfeeds, or doing anything involving electronics, has a big impact on our brains. Once the sun goes down, artificial lights emitted by electronics can create serious sleep problems. Too much light in your eyes from computer or phone screens can throw off your circadian rhythm. That’s your bodies “internal clock”. This can cause significant restlessness and potentially insomnia in the future. These symptoms can also lead to depression.
Now being a touring musician, and performing until the wee hours of the morning, I tend to generally sleep during the day. But it turns out, that this too, can be a problem. Those who spend an extended time at night exposed to artificial lights have shown to be more prone to the development of breast and prostate cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. It’s not uncommon for me to be in these conditions on a nightly basis for 6-8 hours at a time, so this too could be a cause.
Now those are just some of the symptoms and side effects of SAD, or a lack of sunlight in general. I started to wonder if this is a frequent occurrence among people. In an article on familydoctor.org it states that “between 4% and 6% of people in the United States suffer from SAD. Another 10% to 20% may experience a mild form SAD, and is more common in women than in men. Although some children and teenagers get SAD, it usually doesn’t start in people younger than 20 years of age.” So it doesn’t seem, to me anyway, that this is an issue for most people.
So after all these interesting tidbits of information I learned, I came to the conclusion that I need sunlight. I’m just one of those people, I guess. I’m so looking forward to being back in sunny Florida, on the beach, and a nice cold drink. After all, who wouldn’t be happy with that?
—Wyatt P., Florida