UNPAUSE YOUR LIFE Podcast with guest Damona Hoffman – Host of Dates & Mates: “Love As You Are!”

Damona Hoffman – Host of Dates & Mates: “Love As You Are!”

Damona Hoffman
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Damona Hoffman is a certified dating coach & TV host from A+E Networks (FYI TV) series #BlackLove and A Question of Love. She’s also a lifestyle news contributor for CNN Headline News (HLN), love expert for BET.com, writer for The Washington Post, and host of the Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Podcast.

Through written, video, and audio content along with group programs, Damona shares insights as a dating coach of 13 years (certified in 2013) on how to date more efficiently and effectively in today’s world. The tagline of her podcast is “Modern Love, Made Simple” and that is her mission along with showing people how to love as they are without feeling they have to transform into a different person to be loveable.

5 Elements of an Effective Modern Coach. Guest post written by Alexandra Reay


5 Elements of an Effective Modern Coach


Coaching may seem easy, especially when you’re coaching enthusiastic clients, but it can be a very difficult profession sometimes. Many coaches can tell you that it can be a very frustrating and thankless job. Coaches usually occupy a visible position and are usually exposed to different kinds of scrutiny. Regardless, there’s so much joy to be attached to coaching as a profession, especially when you are a good and effective coach.

So, what makes a good coach?

  1. Good coaches are able to inspire their clients to believe in themselves, let go of their worries and help them build their self-esteem. Effective coaches help clients to build their self-esteem without head games or by praising clients when they don’t warrant praise. Instead, they use the right foundations of honesty, encouragement and motivation to build their client’s self-esteem.
  2. Effective coaches do not embarrass or humiliate clients in order to teach them. Embarrassment and humiliation are not tools in the arsenal of an effective coach because they undermine the client’s self-esteem and confidence.
  3. Good coaches teach their clients important life lessons as well as skills, techniques and strategy to effectively deal with hardship, failure, setback, as well as important values that may have been missing in their lives like honesty, integrity, etc.
  4. Good coaches can easily understand and take note of the personality and individual differences of their clients which helps them deal effectively with them.
  5. Good coaches are also flexible. They do not stick to one method, approach or practice for dealing with clients even if that approach worked with another client. They use their understanding of individual differences to deal with clients. They are also ready to try different approaches until one works in helping the client.

Elements of an effective work for a modern coach

  1. Good communication skills

As a coach, you must be able to communicate your ideas as well as important concepts to clients. You should have the communication skills that will allow you to effectively communicate with clients verbally and non-verbally. As part of the skill set of communication, a good coach must have good listening skills, after all, to be able to communicate, he or she must be able to understand what the client is trying to say.

Good listening skills allow the coach to detect when he or she should talk and when he or she should just listen, thereby enhancing the process of communication between the coach and client. For example, when a client is describing a decision or action that made him or her regretful, you should be able to listen carefully and distinguish between the facts of that decision and the thought process that motivated the client to act, as well as what brought about the feeling of regret.

An important listening skill is the ability to convey genuine interest in listening to what your client is saying, you need to listen patiently and give clients your full attention. An expert from hire a writer advises that; you learn to be genuinely curious about what your client is saying and avoid interrupting them even as you pace the conversation and keep it focused and on-topic. You shouldn’t just be listening or projecting cues that you’re listening, you need to hear the words and take in the thoughts and emotions of your client.

  1. Good questioning skills

A good coach can’t be effective if he doesn’t ask the right questions. Through his questions, a coach should be able to determine the difference between the emotions behind the answers and the facts of the answer the client is giving. Therefore, an effective coach should have the questioning skills that will allow him to ask questions that produce precise and powerful answers and responses from the client. A coach with effective questioning skills can even get clients to gain insights and clarity into the motivation, intentions and strategy behind the action or event under discussion on their own.

  1. Feedback skills

Feedback skills are an important element to the effective work of a modern coach. This skill allows the coach to provide the right feedback to a client. To do this, you must know when and how to encourage or discourage the client from taking certain actions and provide honest and unbiased feedback which assists clients in determining when they’re wrong or right.

A good coach must also give complete feedback as well, because not all situations are black and white. A one-sided, biased, arrogant or dismissive feedback might end up destroying the trust between the client and coach or the progress of the client. You must also be careful not to assert your expertise, especially when trying to build a working relationship with a difficult client.

  1. Good motivation skills

This is another element of the effective work of a modern coach. A good coach must be able to motivate his or her clients to put his advice to action. Just advising is not enough, you must be able to give clients the right push towards doing the right thing. Some effective coaches who have good relationships with their clients even read this and were able to devise a means to set up reward systems to encourage clients that are doing well.

  1. Good observation skills

A good coach should always be able to step away from the client, after seeing things from the client’s perspective, he or she must be able to look at things from all other possible perspectives. A good and effective coach must be able to observe the client to know how he or she is doing and if he or she is making any progress. A good coach should also be able to detect possibilities and opportunities for change and development of the client.


If you keep these essential elements in mind while working as a coach and work on improving your observation, questioning, feedback, communication and motivating skills, you’re sure to be an effective and successful coach helping to impact the lives of your client.


Alexandra Reay is an editor and professional writer for BestDissertation.com. She is fond of horse-riding, reading and rock music. Alexandra keeps her spirit in writing fluent articles as well. Meet her at  Twitter. 

Could a Bad Habit Mean Something More? Dr. Cali Estes Discusses in Business Insider Australia.

Could a Bad Habit Mean Something More? Dr. Cali Estes Discusses in Business Insider Australia.


bad habit

Dr. Cali is published in Australian Business Insider discussing bad habits and mental health disorders. Do you have have a bad habit that might be something more?


10 signs your bad habits could signal a psychological disorder


Everyone does something that could be considered a bad habit. From poor communication to picking at your blackheads, no one is exempt from doing something that may be looked at as uncommon or unusual. But what happens when your bad habits start to become more than just that? How do you know if what you’re dealing with can be a sign of a psychological disorder?

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Dr. Cali Estes Discusses Potential Risks of Using ‘Magic’ Mushrooms with INSIDER.

Dr. Cali Estes Discusses Potential Risks of Using ‘Magic’ Mushrooms with INSIDER.


Magic Mushrooms have been used recently to quell health issues including bipolar and depression, BUT are they SAFE? Tune in to see what Dr. Cali Estes has to say below.

10 potential risks of taking ‘magic’ mushrooms

Sophia Mitrokostas    INSIDER

Jan. 24, 2019, 2:20 PM

Magic mushrooms, also known as shrooms, are hallucinogenic fungi that have long been used by some cultures as a spiritual aid and have grown in popularity as a recreational drug.

Magic mushrooms contain a compound called psilocybin that, when ingested, becomes psilocin. This chemical activates serotonin receptors in your brain, triggering vivid hallucinations, a sense of euphoria, and changes in your perception of space and time.

Because they can be found growing in the wild, magic mushrooms are sometimes thought of as a safe alternative to harder drugs. There are, however, still potential risks associated with tripping on these psychedelic fungi.

Further, it’s important to note that the limited studies done on magic mushrooms, or psychedelics in general, are done in a controlled environment with a controlled dosage and those using the drugs recreationally likely will have different outcomes.

INSIDER consulted with two drug and addiction experts to learn more about the risks of taking magic mushrooms recreationally.

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Dr. Cali Estes Discusses Rehab Centers, Marketing & More on AMA The Rehab Marketing Show

Dr. Cali Estes Discusses Rehab Centers, Marketing & More on AMA The Rehab Marketing Show.

Join Dr. Cali Estes as she discusses rehab centers, marketing and why treatment centers are failing and getting caught patient brokering. Take a listen today!

Dr. Cali Estes on Connecting with Addiction Intakes | AMA Episode 1

As an addiction recovery professional, you certainly understand the potential negative consequences when intakes go against medical advice.

How about your addiction treatment center? Does it ever go against marketing advice?

Our guest on this episode of Against Marketing Advice is Dr. Cali Estes.

The AMA Way: Insights Rehab Marketers and Owners Need to Know

Our expert guest today is Dr. Cali Estes. Dr. Cali is a founder, addiction coach, published author, consultant, and marketing strategist for the addiction industry. Her well-rounded expertise helps rehabs solve unique business problems to reach their true potential.

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 5 Unexpected New Year’s Resolutions for 2019. Guest post written by Lisa Smalls


 5 Unexpected New Year’s Resolutions for 2019


The new world resolutions we’re sharing below may very well sound both too familiar and completely foreign to you.

But remember your brain is a muscle. It needs to be pushed hard, and every once in a while you must throw it a curve so it doesn’t get lazy or complacent.

Let’s make a sincere effort to improve our health in 2019. Let’s get specific. Starting with …


  1. Set a bedtime.

Good sleep allows us to heal during the night and recharge our body batteries, two critical processes to staying healthy and avoiding both physical and mental health issues. And, not for nothing, but, if keeping a regular bedtime is good enough for your kids, to insure they sleep well and aren’t cranky in the morning, then it’s good enough for you.

Researchers at Duke University found in a 2018 study that keeping a consistent bedtime will keep your circadian rhythm in check. That, in turn, helps your body with things like digestion and regulating blood sugar.

One way to enhance one’s desire to go to sleep each night at the same time is to create an inviting sleep space with a good mattress, comfortable bedding, gentle lighting, etc. Also, look at mattresses for your needs. Say you’re a side sleeper, certain mattresses will work better for you because they have better contouring. Say you suffer from back pain, same deal.


  1. Take a break from sugar.

Because your brain thinks that sugar is a reward, we can develop significant cravings for it. You get addicted to the rush that comes with that “reward.” But too much sugar in your system can lead to weight gain and increase your risk of getting diabetes.

There are many reasons why a sugar detox could help, but only if you take it in small steps so you can sustain the lifestyle.  Notice how we’re not insisting you avoid it all together. Any extreme measure is hard to maintain. So, in the meantime, eat fruit for a sugar fix and then just eat less sugar. You can train your body to need it less and then a little will go a long way.


  1. Fast for part of the day.

The idea behind intermittent fasting is that we abstain from eating to nudge our body into a state where our insulin levels go down. And that’s a great place to be for maintaining and losing weight and revving up one’s metabolism

Harvard Health talks about simply changing the timing of one’s meals to achieve the goals of intermittent fasting. One suggestion based on research was to shift eating all three of daily meals between 7 a.m. and 3 p.m., and then leaving well enough alone the rest of the day.


  1. Try a new type of exercise once per month.

Getting out of a workout rut is both good for your body and your motivation for continuing an exercise habit. Are you a regular walker? Try an aerobics or CrossFit class. Do you take every cycling class available at your gym? Walk outside for a week instead. Enjoy nature and a change-up for your body.

Even increasing the intensity of your workout can trick your body into thinking it’s doing a “new exercise.”


  1. Learn and practice mindful meditation.

 Mindful meditation doesn’t focus on changing our consciousness or relieving stress. It doesn’t want to change us but wants us to be aware of what is happening around us. Here’s a how-to-guide on mindful meditation.

While we start each year with wonderful intentions to change our lives for the better, that doesn’t happen in a month or two or three. Learning how to honestly and gently, without judgement, acknowledge our reality through mindful meditation can reinforce your commitment to taking care of your mental health in 2019.


Lisa is a freelance writer from North Carolina. Her battle with insomnia since her teenage years has grown her passion for educating readers on the importance of sleep health. When she isn’t writing, you can find her at cycling class or trying a new recipe on the kitchen.

Contact: lisasmalls61@gmail.com

ABC 6 News Reports: The Addictions Academy Hires Kevin J. Carroll as New National Director of Client Acquisition


The Addictions Academy Hires Kevin J. Carroll as New National Director of Client Acquisition

The Addictions Academy founder Dr. Cali Estes is proud to announce they have recently hired Kevin J. Carroll as their National Director of Client Acquisition.


The Addictions Academy founder Dr. Cali Estes is proud to announce they have recently hired Kevin J. Carroll as their National Director of Client Acquisition.

Dr. Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach and Founder of The Addictions Academy recently announced they have a new staff member heading up their National Client Acquisition department. Kevin J. Carroll is the National Director of Client Acquisition & Marketing for Dr. Cali Estes & The Addictions Academy. In addition to his marketing duties, Mr. Carroll will also be teaching two programs at The Addictions Academy; Admissions Call Center Training & Business Developer Treatment Consulter Training.

Estes said, “Kevin has an extraordinary mind for business and success. He has spent the last 12 years in the marketing & sales industry, with the last 5 years being in the Addiction Treatment Industry and we’re thrilled to have him on board.”

Over the last 5 years, Kevin has been the Executive Director of Treatment Centers as well as Director of Marketing. He has worked back end of Treatment Centers for many years with the knowledge of what it takes to run a Treatment Center, financially and clinical with success for their clients in his mind at all times. Kevin continues to strive for excellence in everything he does, from giving advice to addicts/alcoholics to teaching others about industry ethics to teaching classes. Kevin has more than a dozen years in advertising, marketing, and sales.

Mr. Carroll is the holder of the United States Congressional Award with the Bronze, Silver and Gold Medals being awarded to Kevin in Washington D.C. after he was deployed to New Orleans after hurricane Katrina hit the Golf Coast in 2005. He was awarded due to his honorable service in the help to save lives and the rebuilding of New Orleans.

“I have always been the one to help people even when I cannot help himself,” Carroll remarked, referencing his own personal journey through addiction 6 years ago. “My passion for helping others and saving lives has led me to now dedicate my life to helping others and working in an extremely rewarding Industry.”

As we head into 2019, early reports show the nation’s opioid crisis has reached new proportions in 2018, continuing to increase from the unbelievable 70,000 deaths we saw in 2017. Overdose deaths are now higher than deaths from H.I.V, car crashes, or gun violence at their peaks.

A recent report by Fox News, “For first time, odds of dying from opioid overdose higher than dying from car crash” noted that a new analysis from the National Safety Council says the odds of dying by an accidental opioid overdose (1 in 96) have now surpassed the odds of dying in a car accident (1 in 103). Nearly 200 people are succumbing to overdose every day in the United States right now, with some areas of the country seeing hundreds of calls daily for heroin overdose.

Dr. Cali Estes and The Addictions Academy have been offering a wide-ranging assortment of advanced training for years in an on-going effort to counteract the growing addiction problem. The Academy has more than 30 faculty teaching over 40 courses in five different languages. Program graduates can be found in 23 countries helping address the addiction problem worldwide.

For more info on The Addictions Academy, go to https://theaddictionsacademy.com.

To learn more about Dr. Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach, visit https://theaddictionscoach.com.

UNPAUSE YOUR LIFE Podcast with guests; Brian Drolet, Jordan Eubanks, and Christopher Livingston – Be Like Trees


Brian Drolet, Jordan Eubanks, and Christopher Livingston – Be Like Trees


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Inspired by his love of nature and the spirit by which his late mother lived, a former MTV star and struggling artist, who now can’t even pay rent, finds courage to try something new, stand-up comedy.

“We’re simply three guys who wondered what if you could create an entire feature film using just an iPhone. No crew, no lighting, no makeup, just the camera and the assets we had before us. That’s how we decided to focus the story on our actual lives and use ourselves and basically our entire lives as the sets and subject matter.”

Tune in to the entire episode https://unpauseyourlife.com/54

TODAY on The Magnificent Midlife Woman Series: Guest, Dr. Cali Estes!


Cali Estes

Today’s guest is Dr. Cali Estes, a life coach who specializes in–among other things–addiction. Cali has written a book called I Married a Junkie, which should be your first clue that she’s not just book smart, she brings real life experience to her practice.

Tune in on our chat and you’ll learn:

  • What the term “sober on demand” means
  • What to do if someone you love is an addict
  • Why treatment centers don’t work
  • What Cali herself did recently that gave her pause (hint: it had to do with Amazon)
  • A quick way to tell if you might have an addiction, whether it’s to food, alcohol, shopping or drugs
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is an author and highly sought-after addiction therapist and life/corporate coach. She specializes in harm reduction and utilizes holistic approaches to treat addiction. Dr. Cali works with individuals, treatment teams and addiction professionals looking to advance their knowledge base. Dr. Cali’s deep understanding of drug, alcohol and food addiction, including the behaviors and ramifications that are associated with it, place her at the top in the field of addiction therapy. Dr. Cali’s unique no-nonsense approach of cognitive behavioral therapy, positive psychology and life coaching combine to provide the perfect support for an addict. www.theaddictionscoach.com

Dr. Cali’s gift to The Magnificent Midlife Woman listeners is the first two chapters of her book I Married a Junkie.


The Addictions Coach Welcomes Perry Landsman to the LaunchPad Team!


LaunchPad ™, A Unique 30 to 45 Day AfterCare for Substance Abuse Rehab and Drug and Alcohol Treatment – Concierge Private Post Sober on Demand, or Traditional Substance Use Treatment for clients that want to live life on their terms.


Welcome, Perry Landsman!  Perry will be working in our Tampa/Orlando division!

Perry Landsman is a Nationally Certified Recovery Coach and a Nationally Certified Intervention Professional. Perry earned his Bachelor of Arts in Sociology at the University at Albany SUNY, and his intervention and recovery coach certifications at The Addictions Academy in Miami, Florida with Dr. Cali Estes.

Perry is in long-term recovery himself and is extremely passionate in helping others achieve the same results he did. Perry understands the challenges that face the person addicted as well as the family, because of his own personal experience with addiction and recovery.

Perry has worked in substance abuse treatment for over 2.5 years at a residential treatment center and intensive outpatient program. Perry has held the titles of recovery services coordinator, recovery advocate, lead recovery advocate, admissions coordinator and case manager.

Perry is extremely passionate about coaching because of the action-oriented focus and seeing his clients achieve results that they never thought were possible.

Learn more about our unique LaunchPad progam here or call our team at 1.800.706.0318