Anxiety and Addiction

If you find yourself having a spell of anxiety attack, what do you do? How do you handle it? Do you reach for a xanax? A roxy?  Do you find yourself drowning in a bottle of alcohol?  How do you handle the stress and anxiety of the situation?

What happens after you sober back up? Are the same problems still there? Now what?  More drugs? More alcohol? The problems are not going away and resolving themselves.

So what do you do and how  do you handle the stress and anxiety over the life event?

Suggestion of the day:

1. Stop and analyze the magnitude of the situation. Is it as crazy or negative as you think it is?

2. Can you resolve it TODAY? Or is it something that you can put off to deal with tomorrow?

3. Can you calling the calvary to deal with it? Can you ask for help? Pick up the phone and ask..

4. Wait 24 hrs and re-evaluate the situation. Is it REALLY that bad? Scale it on a 1-10

If you need help call me at 800.706.0318

Do you allow people to influence your mood?

Do you sometimes allow people to influence your mood? Are you sometimes in a great mood and you meet that one negative person that sends your entire day into a tailspin?

Well, what if I told you that you can take control of your entire day and be happy?  What would that look like for you?



Miss the beautiful things rushing for the fast instant gratification

Take time to enjoy!Too many times we miss the beautiful things rushing for the fast instant gratification!  What will you take time to enjoy today???


Your mood affects your entire day

What If you knew that your mood affected your thoughts?  Your thoughts affect your actions and your actions are what makes things happen.

So how do you feel today? What does that translate into it?


Social Anxiety and Addictions

Social Anxiety can be an  underlying reason that people use drugs and alcohol and try to mask the problems that are really going on. Having to deal with social situations that make you anxious or uncomfortable can lead to drug and alcohol use to try to get through the situation. Can you imagine a life without anxiousness or being afraid you can not make it through the event?  Can you imagine a life  where you are not a slave to the bottle or the pill or the needle?

If so, I can help. Cali 800.706.0318

Can you get sober with AA/NA?

Interesting question was raised by a client the other day, can I get sober with AA/NA?

So I polled some individuals and here is what the consensus seems to be:

Someone in ‘recovery’ that attends meetings will tell you that u MUST have a sponsor and do 12 step work.

Most therapists in recovery swear by AA/NA…

Most sober coaches and recovery coaches swear by it…

In my opinion, yes you can get sober WITHOUT it. Does it add a tool to the toolbox, yes but using it alone is not advised. The problem is that sponsors are not trained professionals and if something arises, they are not trained to handle it. If you use meetings and 12 step as a GUDE LINE and not as the only way, it may work…remember getting sober is half the battle , staying sober is winning the war.

Cali Estes is a Therapist, Sober coach and life coach in Miami Florida.


Another ‘star’ DEAD of overdose!

Kovar. (WireImage)Another “Celebrity Rehab” graduate has died of apparent substance abuse. On Friday, the body of “Real World: Hollywood” cast member Joey Kovar was found at a friend’s home just outside Chicago. According to TMZ, a female friend discovered the 29-year-old’s body, which had blood coming out of his ears and nose. Friends and family also tell the site that they believe drugs are to blame.

Kovar is the fourth person who has appeared on Dr. Drew’s VH1 show to die in the past 18 months. In March 2011, former Alice in Chains bassist Mike Starr overdosed on prescription pills at a home in Utah, that May “Grease” star Jeff Conaway died in the same manner, and just this past June, Rodney King was found drowned in his pool after a night of drinking and smoking marijuana. Kovar was on the third season of “Celebrity Rehab” in 2009 for his addiction to cocaine and ecstasy.

His stint on the “Real World” was brief, but memorable. Halfway through the 2008 season, he entered rehab following scary outbursts directed at his cast mates. “I’m sorry, you guys,” a sobbing Kovar told them when he announced he would be leaving the show. “This is so hard, this is so embarrassing. I’m sorry, you guys, I don’t mean to act like this … I don’t mean to be a bad person.” As his understanding roomies hugged him, he told them about a moment the previous year when he had done so much cocaine and drank so much alcohol, that he thought he was “ready to die.” But then four months before he joined the MTV show, he insisted he had quit it all. Sadly, once he moved to Hollywood, “Boom, here comes the monster again,” he said through tears.

A look at Kovar’s Twitter feed shows a guy who was hopeful about his future. On Wednesday, the last day he was alive, he sent out a string of positive tweets. The final one: “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”

The Addictions Coach kicks off 12 week program

The Addictions Coach kicks off 12 week program to a ‘healthier you’  for:

*social anxiety

*drug addiction

*alcohol addiction



All programs come with unlimited text and emails. 12 week program 1 hour a week !  Initial consultation fee of $250.00 waived!

Call Cali Estes at 800.706.0318 today!

Whats the difference between a Sponsor a Coach and a Therapist ?

Knowing whom to hire for assistance is key to understanding  your addiction.

A sponsor is an unpaid, usually unqualified individual that simply has ‘been there’ and will work with you on a set of guidelines called 12 steps. They usually have no formal training and are in the program themselves.  Usually available at a moments notice.

A Coach is usually someone that is certified and understands the concept of addiction. They can be an individual that stays with you for a specific period of time or accompanies you to events to encourage you to stay sober. They are available via text phone and email 24/7.

A therapist is an individual that has formal training, usually a Master’s degree, and certifications in the art of understanding addiction. Usually booked for 1 or 2 hours per week.




New Technology to Combat Drug and Alcohol Addictions

The Addictions Coach utilizes New Technology to Combat Drug and Alcohol Addictions.

Miami Florida August 9, 2012

The Addictions Coach, which specializes in drug, alcohol and food addictions, has begun to offer a new and unique way of doing therapy and coaching for drug and alcohol addicts. Long gone are the days of trekking to the shrinks office, waiting in a room of people that you don’t know and sitting on a couch to discuss your feelings. Therapy and life coaching have taken on a new level with the advent of modern technology and Cali Estes comes right into her client’s living room.

By utilizing the technology of today, Cali can chat with her clients via phone, Skype or even Face Time on a client’s IPhone or I pad. She is able to connect directly with them right in the comfort of their own home and offer them a service that fits into the most busy of schedules. Clients now have no excuse to not have a coach that can help them with life’s problems when the thought of not having to travel to the therapist or coach is no longer an issue.

“I was not keen on going to a therapist and did not feel like having to drive after work,” Barbara Stein said. “Cali has made it so very easy for me to have a coach and therapist without having to leave my home. We schedule weekly appointments and she can also fit me in if I had a rough day or need extra attention on a minutes notice. With my last therapist I would have to book her weeks in advance. I appreciate the convenience and added comfort of being in my house”.

For people that can’t attend AA or NA meetings for fear of being seen by their own clients and customers or do not believe in the 12 step philosophy benefit from having an addiction coach and therapist at their fingertips. Clients can text or call Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach, and book a same day appointment. When was the last time you could do that at a doctor’s office? The new age of therapy and life coaching has begun to satisfy the immediate needs nature of the human race.

“I work with clients from all walks of life, but attorneys, doctors, actors, musicians and other high profile professionals utilize my services mostly because they don’t have to deal with the stigma of going to a therapist office,” Cali Estes said. “I am available at their discretion and my services can be utilized if they need to talk or are having a bad day I can chat with them within 6 hours. That type of service is usually not provided in this industry.”

Cali’s multidimensional approach focuses on the underlying cause of the addiction and she approaches each client in a unique manner. Unlike traditional rehabilitation centers that convince the addict that they have a disease that is incurable and they must attend meetings, recite prayers and follow steps, Cali tailors her program to fit the client. By realizing that each client is unique and their pattern of addiction is unique with a root cause, Cali is able to address the addiction at the core level and assist the addict in making the necessary changes and positive steps in their life.

Cali Estes has a unique background and is more than a ‘sober coach’ or ‘recovery coach’. She has a background in clinical and personality psychology, addictions and forensics. She can get to the root of the addiction quickly and work with the client in building a safe environment in which to make the changes necessary to live a productive lifestyle. Clients in addiction feel powerless, helpless and hopeless and need answers and ways to change their lives. Sometimes family and friends think that everyone should be able to have ‘just one drink’ at a function, but for some clients that is not what happens. That one drink turns them into an unmanageable individual that their family and friends cannot deal with. Taking a pill to ‘get through the day’ or ‘take the edge off’ eventually leads to a full blown addiction with the addict personality. Cali can address all these issues with both the family and the client and assist them in making the changes necessary to be happy and healthy.

“The biggest issue for me was I could sit by my pool and have a session with Cali,” David Dean said. “I am someone that has some social anxiety and having the idea that I can be relaxed and comfortable while chatting with her about my issues has made it so much easier for me to work on what I need to.”

Cali has consulted in 2 countries and frequently flies between South Florida, New York and Los Angeles to work with her clients. She has clients in the music industry, acting/film, modeling, CEO’s and frequent high stress jobs clients. She is available on an individual basis for clients, more intensive or for speaking engagements. She has accompanied clients to high risk situations like weddings, worked ‘on set’ of movie and film productions, worked directly with pro athletes, sat in on business meetings, been ‘on tour’ with musicians and even will work directly in the home of the client for a more intensive ‘rehab’ setting.

“I do the traditional one hour a week sessions, but I am also available to assist clients on tour, on movie sets, or for 30 day stays in their home,” Cali said. “For a high powered CEO or actor that does not have the time to spend in a residential rehab, I can bring the rehab to them.”

The Addictions Coach is based out of Miami Florida but services clients in all of South Florida, New York City and Los Angeles.

Cali Estes